I am a positivity expert and I hadn’t even heard the term toxic positivity until the pandemic. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire the circumstances, you should just think positive. It is denying the pain. Pushing it down and ignoring it, hoping it will go away. The problem with toxic positivity […]
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Recently my computer was giving me some problems, things weren’t pulling up the way they should and I couldn’t get some of the add-ons to work. So, I did a reboot. Yep, shut the whole thing down, gave it a rest and re-booted. And wha-la, everything started working the way it should. Sometimes our brains
Our perception of the world can change. It doesn’t mean the world has changed. It hasn’t. Perception does not change reality. A shift in perception CAN change how we see ourselves in relation to the world (or your child, partner, boss, etc.). A shift can give us an idea, resolve, or hope. A shift can
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Do you remember how it felt when you sat behind the wheel of a car the first time? The direction of the car was up to you. YOU had complete control. And, you felt like you had no idea what you were doing. You had some notion of how the car worked, but how to merge your
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To-Do lists. You know how they work. By writing everything down you have a better chance of getting tasks done because you are more likely to remember them and there is a physical reminder staring at you from your desk. I have even been known to add an item to the list just so I
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I hurt my back. No, not a big deal and not something new. It happens and contrary to what my wife says, it has nothing to do with the fact that my twin sister has a birthday coming soon. Nothing at all! Now, I know what I should do when this happens. I know it!
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I had something else on my mind for this week and then another senseless school shooting happened. Someone decided to walk into a place that was safe and loving and killed 21 people, leaving countless others shattered in the aftermath. It makes my heart heavy. There just aren’t words. A family member knew someone whose
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Too often people come to me when things are broken. Saddest of all is when relationships are broken, or hanging on by a thread, And then we get into what is wrong. In most cases they don’t need to tell me what happened. The results are predictable. They stopped spending time together. They stopped thinking
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Have you ever read a book or seen a movie and were disappointed with how it ended? Clients sometimes tell me they don’t like how their life has ended up. They feel down and dejected. I feel pumped up and excited. Because it isn’t the end of the story. The last page hasn’t been turned.
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When I learned this one tip, life got easier. Detach from the outcomes. This makes sense because can we really control the outcome? Probably not. Have you ever been absolutely sure of what should happen? Not kind of hoped for, but you absolutely KNEW what the outcome needed to be to ensure your future happiness
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