“It’s not my fault.” “I didn’t sign up for this.” As a psychologist I hear different refrains of this idea over and over. And I tell those that express the sentiment – you are right! You didn’t ask for this and it isn’t your fault. Now, what are you going to do? We don’t have […]
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There is a saying in AA: Expectations are Premeditated Resentments. If you have feelings of resentment, you can almost always look back and find unrealized expectations that led to the resentment. Being frustrated and resentful inhibits our ability to think logically and clearly. It pushes us to a place where we say things like: “This
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Is it possible for couples with different values to agree on effective rules for their children? Yes! When couples simplify and seek to understand each other. Let’s start with the good news: Differences make us relevant and interesting to each other. Think about it, if you and your partner were exactly the same, one of
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You know I’m a fan of group coaching, but you may still be hesitant. And that’s o.k. I want to share with you what a real member of Live On Purpose Central said about the group coaching we do weekly. This is part of the actual email: Getting your advice is really helpful. Little snippets
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There is only one thing your children need to learn about control. And, it is easy to teach. Sound too good to be true? Here it is. Control and Maturity are butting up against each other in the model and when we understand how they relate, things start to make sense and fall into place.
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Dr. Paul has been really busy lately so we are giving him a week off and taken over the newsletter. We often joke about some of Dr. Paul’s catch phrases and can often anticipate what Dr. Paul will say before he says it. We call these Dr. Paulism’s. While you won’t find this term in
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It really is. Happiness is not a future event. It is now. But, my kids are not listening to me. I hate my job and my boss. I can’t seem to get everything done that I need to. You can choose to be happy, even if your life is not where you want it yet.
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Our perception of the world can change. It doesn’t mean the world has changed. It hasn’t. Perception does not change reality. A shift in perception CAN change how we see ourselves in relation to the world (or your child, partner, boss, etc.). A shift can give us an idea, resolve, or hope. A shift can
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Do you remember how it felt when you sat behind the wheel of a car the first time? The direction of the car was up to you. YOU had complete control. And, you felt like you had no idea what you were doing. You had some notion of how the car worked, but how to merge your
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To-Do lists. You know how they work. By writing everything down you have a better chance of getting tasks done because you are more likely to remember them and there is a physical reminder staring at you from your desk. I have even been known to add an item to the list just so I
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