Make a tight fist and don’t open your hand. Now catch what I throw to you. It is a little hard to catch something when your hand is tightly fisted. I use this example when talking to clients who are having a hard time letting go of something. When they are having a hard time moving past an event or relationship. As long as they continue holding onto the person or event, they can’t receive what may be tossed their way. They can’t grasp onto a new perspective, a new relationship, a new possibility. All they have is a closed fist and feel defeated. I get why they don’t open their fist. It may be for comfort. Even though they say they don’t like what they are wrapping their fingers around, they have been that way for a long time. They don’t know what having an open hand would feel…
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Money is one of the most common things that people worry about. How do you stop worrying about money? I've got 3 easy steps for you today, and the last one is the most powerful. Step one is understanding worry. We are going to stop worrying about money. Let's understand worry first. What is it? I'm a psychologist, I deal with this all the time. Worry is the negative prediction of what is to be. Think about that for a minute. We all constantly imagining what is coming. It doesn’t exist because we haven't created it yet. Think about that. How you doing next week? You don't know. You have something to do with it. Please remember that, but you don't know. So, the only place that exists right now is in your imagination. Can you imagine things getting worse for you? Just play along with me for a moment.…
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Even with our best efforts, sometimes we do it. We lose our cool and yell at our kids. How do you apologize to your child for yelling? We can learn something from our kids. You know when your kids are kind of conflicted with each other and they end up hurting each other they end up yelling or whatever it is. And you tell them, "Okay now, tell your brother you're sorry." And it doesn’t sound sincere at all. Nobody is convinced. Well, let's learn something from that. Be authentic. Be real about this. I don't want you to pretend to apologize to your child or do it with some strings attached. For example, what if I were to say, "I'm sorry that I yelled at you. But you shouldn't have..." You are not really sorry at that point. I gave the apology, then I threw the other party under…
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