In America we are celebrating the Superbowl and Valentine's Day this week. This got me thinking about an episode of Live On Purpose Radio I did in October 2022. I talked about a book called The Law of Love, written by a three-time Superbowl Champ, Steve Young.
This book resonated with me because Steve asserts that love is not a feeling, it is a principle. And I love principles. Feelings change – principles endure.
Steve also says, “The law of love is undefeated.” Every athlete has experienced a loss, but love is undefeated. I like those odds.
Steve says there are two tracks to love. One is a preparatory track. On this track what you put in, you get out. I call this the Law of the Harvest. When we plant tomatoes, we get tomatoes. When we give love to others, we normally get love back. The problem is, we don't always get love back and we think we should. Then we feel frustration, anger and resentment.
The finishing track, experiential. This track is not transactional. When we are on this track, we are doing the right things for the right reasons, not to get something out of it for ourselves. We are acting out of love for the other person. What we get out of the relationship is secondary to our concern for the well-being of the other person. We do this because of who we are. The love is inside, and how we manifest is shown through our actions.
Have a Happy Valentine's Day and I hope to see you on the finishing track.
Here is the complete episode to learn more about the Law of Love.