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The Risks of Comparing Children

By M-Power
You probably think I will tell you to stop comparing your children, but I won’t. I’m not sure you can. I think our psychology is designed in such a way that we constantly compare. You compare yourself all the time, sometimes kind of unfairly. You are going to compare your kids to something whether it's an imagined standard, whether it's to their siblings and the other kids in the family or whether it's to what you think most kids are like. Notice that you're doing it. When you compare your kids to other kids it changes you, specifically your mood because there are processes going on in our mind all the time.You can't turn them off. We are judging or evaluating ourselves, our kids, our circumstances, everything in our life. When I see this happen to families I am coaching often I will call it to their attention. I'll do…
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I Love You Too Much To Argue

By M-Power
Conflicts are a natural part of life.  The very thing that makes us interesting to each other (our differences) also creates the opportunity for conflict because of differing opinions, values, views, or preferences.  This is also true between parents and children, especially as kids begin to assert their independence.  Jim Fay, author of Parenting With Love and Logic, shared with our Parental Power group yesterday that there are some things you control and some things you don’t.  There is no value in arguing with your kids.  When they try to draw you into an argument, simply respond with “I love you too much to argue” and then figure out what you control and what you don’t.  If you have kids, you would really appreciate this interview - http://www.parental-power.com/2009/02/17/parental-power-with-love-and-logic/ products  Low Interest Payday Advance Three grand essentials to happiness in this life Are something to do, something to love, And something…
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