I was reminded the other day about commas. We use them when writing to create a space, a pause. How often though do we pause? We speed read through without paying any attention to the comma. Yet, a comma can make a powerful difference. “Let’s eat grandma,” or “Let’s eat, grandma.” Most of you have […]
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The other day I was doing a task around the house and I took a shortcut. It wasn’t really so much a shortcut as just being sloppy. My mind was on the next task. I stopped and said out loud, “You can do better.” Now no one was around to see and who knows if
Do you ever get the feeling that some people are living for future happiness? For a time when there will be no problems and then they can be happy? They are waiting to be happy. That just makes me sad. I will be happy when I find someone and marry. I will be happy when
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Everything will be okay in the end. If things aren’t okay, it isn’t the end. Keep going. I was reminded of this saying when reading a hopeful study that said 10% of people with major depression were thriving 10 years later. Thriving, not just living. Many people think that once depressed, always depressed. That isn’t
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Are you the person that people feel comfortable dumping their problems on? Dumpers aren’t really looking for solutions to their problems, they just want sympathy and to restate the wrongs being done to them. And then pretty soon they want to do it again. Nothing changes because responsibility is not accepted and they are getting
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People come to see me for a variety of reasons. They are having trouble in their marriage, their family, work, and some for personal development. Their circumstances are very individualized, but often there is one thing that is common. Relationships. There is a relationship that is in trouble or causing pain. It could be a
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Both are an absolute. Which do you choose to believe? Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift, or in this case, punctuation, for what was closed to open. Notice that I’m Possible doesn’t mean that you have arrived at your destination. It merely opens up the destination as something that can happen. Possible means
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If your default is to negativity, you can learn to be more positive! My friend Devan Thorpe asked me on LinkedIn if our optimism setpoint is immovable or can we learn to be more positive? Unless you missed it, I am a Positive Psychologist. I answered that through research and clinical experience many aspects of
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I don’t know if you have ever written something and looked back at it later and thought, “What was I thinking?” or “Wow, that is still relevant today.” I did this recently with this excerpt from my book, Pathological Positivity. Remember, I wrote this in 2014 and we know the world has changed a bit
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This is a topic that I have dealt with and in my 30 year psychology practice, I have had more than one person in my office with the same problem. They are trying to make everyone in their life happy and they are miserable because they feel like they are failing. When they perceive that
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