I saw this message on a board this week and the truth leapt out. Our words can either limit us or help us to grow. And we have the choice of which words we use and listen to. “I messed up.” OK, well, who hasn’t. What if we changed the words to, “What can I […]
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The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Socrates Have you ever met someone who declares they are over someone or a situation and then they go on and on talking about that person or situation? They say they want change. They
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Is there any good reason to compare yourself to others? Would it surprise you if I said, “Yes!” Social Comparison Theory is an area getting lots of attention as we have more social media than ever, but is also helpful in our social circles. And it is done at the earliest of ages. Small children
There are times in our lives when it is natural to take a pause and evaluate where we are and where we want to go. This happens when we have major life events. Experience beginnings and endings. When we feel restless, unsettled or bored. When we reach a goal. When we are frazzled, feeling like
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DIscipline gets a bad rap in our culture. We think of it as punishment. As something to be avoided and only embraced if we have no other choice. “Discipline is rarely enjoyable, but almost always profitable.” Darrin Patrick From the Latin origin, the word discipline can mean student. When you look at it from that
Do you like TED Talks or Inspirational Speakers? The psychologist in me is fascinated by these speeches. There is a common thread through most of the talks given. There was something hard. Obstacles and problems were placed before them. It was something they would not have chosen for themselves. They suffered, but persevered. The person
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“It’s not my fault.” “I didn’t sign up for this.” As a psychologist I hear different refrains of this idea over and over. And I tell those that express the sentiment – you are right! You didn’t ask for this and it isn’t your fault. Now, what are you going to do? We don’t have
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January is traditionally a time for new beginnings. Not everyone hops on the path to a new destination as they see others down the path and don’t think they can ever get there. But where did those people further down the path start? Where you are! Does that change anything for you? “Your present circumstances
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I hurt my back. No, not a big deal and not something new. It happens and contrary to what my wife says, it has nothing to do with the fact that my twin sister has a birthday coming soon. Nothing at all! Now, I know what I should do when this happens. I know it!
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Have you ever read a book or seen a movie and were disappointed with how it ended? Clients sometimes tell me they don’t like how their life has ended up. They feel down and dejected. I feel pumped up and excited. Because it isn’t the end of the story. The last page hasn’t been turned.
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