Dr. Paul Jenkins

Jun 23

Killer Whales and Parenting

By DrPaul M-Power

This week has been busy as I am training 11 new Positivity Practitioners. The newsletter this week is from Sue Meintjes, who interviewed me for the wonderful work they are doing to support parents. Click on the link at the bottom of the article to get a ton of information to help you with your parenting. Not a parent? Share with someone who is. Sue Meintjes I’m not a fan of swimming in the ocean. I just can’t shake the feeling that sharks are gliding around beneath me, waiting for their chance to snack on me. So when I saw the headline Killer whales deliberately hitting boats off coast of Spain and Portugal earlier today I just had to read the article for further proof that we should stay out of the ocean. Apparently, over the last year, there has been more than 60 incidents of killer whales, orcas, attacking and destroying…

Jun 12

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What Midweek Thinking Time Can Do For You

By DrPaul M-Power

There are times in our lives when it is natural to take a pause and evaluate where we are and where we want to go. This happens when we have major life events. Experience beginnings and endings. When we feel restless, unsettled or bored. When we reach a goal. When we are frazzled, feeling like we are on a hamster wheel – getting nowhere but spinning around and around. I have recently discovered a tool that has helped me to push pause on a regular basis. It is called Midweek Think Time. I was sharing with my daughter, Lyndi, about some projects or concerns that I hadn’t come to a resolution yet about. And, my calendar was full. She said, “You need some weekly think time.” So, I put it on my calendar. MIDWEEK THINKING TIME I write down items that need my attention and additional thought to think through. …

Jun 08

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Neurons That Fire Together, Stay Together

By DrPaul M-Power

Have you heard the story of the little train that told itself, “I think I can, I think I can,” as it chugged up the steep hill? The little train was almost no match against the big hill, but in the end he did get up the hill because he told himself he could do it. He didn’t give up. (Can you tell I have been spending time with the grands?) I talk a lot about having a positive mindset because when done with the correct intentions and setting yourself up for success, the result is more positive behavior. Our brains are trained from a very young age to default toward negativity or positivity. The good news is that even if your brain has been trained toward negativity, you don’t have to stay there. Hebb’s Law was developed in 1949 by Donald Hebb and published in The Organization of Behavior:…

May 23

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My Reason to Celebrate

By DrPaul M-Power

The topic of birthdays came up the other day and one woman said, “I don’t have those anymore.” Well, I do and my twin sister is about to have another one. I like birthdays because I like to get together with family and friends and celebrate. I like birthdays because I can reflect on what has happened in the past year and make goals for what I want to accomplish in the coming year. I like birthdays because it breaks up the normal routine. I like birthdays because I like cake and ice cream. I like birthdays because I get to think about other people and celebrate them. There could be many things to not like about birthdays, but I choose to celebrate people and their goodness. I get it, not everything about getting older is fun, but I would rather celebrate another birthday than not. And though in my…

May 18

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Write the Story, Especially the Next Chapter

By DrPaul M-Power

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Socrates Have you ever met someone who declares they are over someone or a situation and then they go on and on talking about that person or situation? They say they want change. They say they don’t want to be stuck. They say they want to move on. And then they rehash the old – again. The thing is the past is the past and what has happened has happened, we can’t make events turn out different than they are. I always say something is not an option until someone sees it as an option. We don’t exercise the option to change because we don’t see the option. There are many ways to get unstuck. Some have become more mindful to help stay in the present. Some have journaled…

May 09

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Change Your Words, Change Your Mindset

By DrPaul M-Power

I saw this message on a board this week and the truth leapt out. Our words can either limit us or help us to grow. And we have the choice of which words we use and listen to. “I messed up.” OK, well, who hasn’t. What if we changed the words to, “What can I learn from this experience?” “This is really hard.” Whatever you are doing is probably hard, because every time we do something for the first time it is difficult. We don’t have the muscle memory to know how to act. What if we changed the words to, “I need more/other skills to help me get better at this.” “I’m not good at this.” Michael Jordan was told he wasn’t good at basketball, but he kept practicing. What if we changed the words to, “I will keep practicing so I can get better at this.” “I give…

May 05

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Little Known Byproduct of Forgiveness

By DrPaul M-Power

Forgiveness can be hard for some people. Forgiveness is also a powerful emotion that can have a lasting impact on both personal and work life. When some people are holding back forgiveness from someone who sincerely is sorry and is trying to change it may be helpful to keep in mind an important byproduct of forgiveness. Forgiveness can help to foster loyalty between two people. I don’t know of any relationship where there has been perfect communication and understanding of where the other person was coming from, past hurts and disappointments and grace given always in abundance. Perhaps because there are no perfect people. Communication can be confusing. We aren’t at our best every day of our lives. We may be sick, upset about something, sleep deprived. Without forgiveness the disagreement can moulder and fester. With forgiveness the bond can become stronger which leads to increased loyalty. In the workplace,…

Apr 27

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Get Your Free Book

By DrPaul M-Power

My friend, Sue Meintjes, has just released a new ebook called “How To Get Kids To Listen”, containing 18 short interviews with leading parenting experts. And, yes, I’m one of the featured interviews. I was so impressed with all the content, I arranged for you to get a copy for free. It features 10-minute interviews with leading parenting experts who share their single best strategy to get your kids to listen and cooperate…without yelling and begging! Some of the chapters include: You can get your free copy of this ebook by clicking here: https://www.ExpertParentingAdvice.com/listen/dr-paul-jenkins I hope you enjoy this valuable gift. I know it will help you get your kids to cooperate more, while at the same time building a deeper, more positive relationship with them. You can download it here: https://www.ExpertParentingAdvice.com/listen/dr-paul-jenkins DrPaul

Apr 03

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You Are Canceled!

By DrPaul M-Power

Canceled! If you are on social media or watch the news you will see that people are increasingly quick to “cancel” someone they don’t agree with. Canceling someone is publicly denouncing them and seeking to ruin their reputation or career. This practice is so common that it is now considered a form of online activism. This article is not about determining when and if it is ok to cancel someone or talk about specific instances. We can benefit from standing back a bit and considering if there are other ways we can go about standing up for what we believe and making a difference without canceling people. The dangers of canceling people are not to be taken lightly. Canceling someone can have serious consequences for BOTH the person who is canceled and the ones who are canceling. There may be a benefit to not canceling the person and employing some…

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