How to Develop Positive Attitude: Three Basic Steps Step One: Find the good in what is. The whole idea behind Pathological Positivity is that there are up sides and down sides to everything. What is, is always between better and worse. It could always be better than it is now, and it could always be […]
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Necessity is the mother of invention. Difficult situations inspire ingenious solutions. I share a story in the first chapter of my book where I was stuck in the muck, frustrated, worried, dissatisfied. It was while in this state I finally saw how my own thinking was getting in my way, and also saw a possible
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One of the labels commonly assigned to something that creates discontent is “problem” – which bears its own stigma. We dislike discontent. We hate problems. Or do we? Perhaps we think we don’t like problems because the vast majority of us have been conditioned from childhood to feel that having problems is bad and not
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We are creators by nature. Many religions promote the idea that humans are more than just a creation; they are actual offspring of the Creator. As a child of the Supreme Creator, what would that make you? A creator. It’s not that you can become a creator someday, you already are a creator. Just like a puppy is
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How do you feel when life dumps on you? How would you like to feel? Focus right now on any tough situation you are going through. Now, without minimizing what you are facing, consider these two ways of looking at it: – Things should have been better and are about to get worse. + Things
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This is the simple phrase that was printed at the bottom of a card that my friend Logan handed me when we bumped into each other at baggage claim as I returned home from the National Speaker’s Association Convention in Washington, D.C. No flare. No pretense. Just a promise. Bound by my word. Give your word and
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Immaculée Ilibagiza crouched beside seven other women in a cramped twelve square foot bathroom in Rwanda for three months, being careful not to make a sound so the bloodthirsty Hutu killing raids would not discover them and thrust their bodies onto the piles of rotting corpses that were Immaculée’s family and fellow Tutsis. To accompaniment
Thursday is Thanksgiving in the United States. Grateful guests will bring flowers to express appreciation and brighten the table of their host. Wednesday I will speak at the funeral of a friend. Consoling grievers will bring flowers to comfort the family and beautify the bier. I would rather speak to him than about him. Sometimes
My dad still consults with me on a regular basis and is one of my trusted advisors. He and I share a fear of plumbing. Dad taught me that there are two basic rules of plumbing: Rule number one: Water runs downhill. Rule number two: Don’t lick your fingers. Positive psychology also has
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Success comes in cans, not in can’ts. From a purely psychological perspective, what happens right after we tell ourselves we can’t? The next step after “I can’t” is, “I won’t even try. I’m done. Finished. Defeated.” “I can’t” is a toggle switch on the side of our brain that turns our creative mind off. It is
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