From a positive psychology perspective, our mind handles two very distinct tasks – evaluation of what is, and creation of what is to be. Powerful creation starts with and is powered up by what we do in the evaluation mode. When we find the good in what is, we are in position to create something […]
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Do you hear the voices? Some people get a little nervous when I ask them this question. I’m a shrink, and I’m asking if you hear the voices? But we all hear them. You might even hear one right now saying, “What voices? I don’t know what he’s talking about.” That’s the voice I mean.
How to Develop Positive Attitude: Three Basic Steps Step One: Find the good in what is. The whole idea behind Pathological Positivity is that there are up sides and down sides to everything. What is, is always between better and worse. It could always be better than it is now, and it could always be
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Necessity is the mother of invention. Difficult situations inspire ingenious solutions. I share a story in the first chapter of my book where I was stuck in the muck, frustrated, worried, dissatisfied. It was while in this state I finally saw how my own thinking was getting in my way, and also saw a possible
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One of the labels commonly assigned to something that creates discontent is “problem” – which bears its own stigma. We dislike discontent. We hate problems. Or do we? Perhaps we think we don’t like problems because the vast majority of us have been conditioned from childhood to feel that having problems is bad and not
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We are creators by nature. Many religions promote the idea that humans are more than just a creation; they are actual offspring of the Creator. As a child of the Supreme Creator, what would that make you? A creator. It’s not that you can become a creator someday, you already are a creator. Just like a puppy is
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How do you feel when life dumps on you? How would you like to feel? Focus right now on any tough situation you are going through. Now, without minimizing what you are facing, consider these two ways of looking at it: – Things should have been better and are about to get worse. + Things
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Time management? That is a misnomer. We can’t really manage it can we? We can measure it, spend it, and watch it pass, but we can’t save it, control it, or manage it. How will we spend it? When we spend our time on the activities that are ultimately most valuable to us, we have
What if you were to go to the elementary school to drop off a form at the office? While you are standing at the front desk, a man in a ski mask barges in through the front door brandishing a gun and yelling profanities. Unseen by the gunman, the police officer assigned to your child’s
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Thursday is Thanksgiving in the United States. Grateful guests will bring flowers to express appreciation and brighten the table of their host. Wednesday I will speak at the funeral of a friend. Consoling grievers will bring flowers to comfort the family and beautify the bier. I would rather speak to him than about him. Sometimes
