A video clip from an advertisement for Becel Heart Healthy Products features two people going up an escalator. The escalator suddenly clunks to an abrupt stop. “Oh, that’s not good,” one says, as the other complains, “I don’t need this. I’m already late!” They shout for help. Their need for rescue echoes off the walls of […]
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To manifest great things we must do a little more work than we may have anticipated, but less than we fear. Remember, stuff just sits there until you move it. Water runs downhill until you add pipes and pressure to alter its course. Cake ingredients are just ingredients until someone mixes and bakes them. There
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From a positive psychology perspective, our mind handles two very distinct tasks – evaluation of what is, and creation of what is to be. Powerful creation starts with and is powered up by what we do in the evaluation mode. When we find the good in what is, we are in position to create something
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Do you hear the voices? Some people get a little nervous when I ask them this question. I’m a shrink, and I’m asking if you hear the voices? But we all hear them. You might even hear one right now saying, “What voices? I don’t know what he’s talking about.” That’s the voice I mean.
How to Develop Positive Attitude: Three Basic Steps Step One: Find the good in what is. The whole idea behind Pathological Positivity is that there are up sides and down sides to everything. What is, is always between better and worse. It could always be better than it is now, and it could always be
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Necessity is the mother of invention. Difficult situations inspire ingenious solutions. I share a story in the first chapter of my book where I was stuck in the muck, frustrated, worried, dissatisfied. It was while in this state I finally saw how my own thinking was getting in my way, and also saw a possible
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One of the labels commonly assigned to something that creates discontent is “problem” – which bears its own stigma. We dislike discontent. We hate problems. Or do we? Perhaps we think we don’t like problems because the vast majority of us have been conditioned from childhood to feel that having problems is bad and not
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Perceiving problems as problems is the problem. Positivity is a practical approach to solve every problem. Pathological Positivity is not ignoring or avoiding reality, but intentionally and doggedly insisting on seeing possibilities in problems and finding or creating constructive tools to handle inevitable challenges. Imagine hearing a big commotion in your front yard. You open your door
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David and Brenda have scheduled an appointment for some Pathologically Positive coaching. They are trying to save their twenty five year marriage. As is the case with far too many long-term couples, they are on the brink of divorce. There’s no real problem – and that is the problem. Brenda explains that she just doesn’t
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Time management? That is a misnomer. We can’t really manage it can we? We can measure it, spend it, and watch it pass, but we can’t save it, control it, or manage it. How will we spend it? When we spend our time on the activities that are ultimately most valuable to us, we have
