How Well Do You Know Dr. Paul?

By M-Power

Dr. Paul has been really busy lately so we are giving him a week off and taken over the newsletter. We often joke about some of Dr. Paul’s catch phrases and can often anticipate what Dr. Paul will say before he says it. We call these Dr. Paulism’s. While you won’t find this term in the dictionary, as soon as you hear a few, you know what we mean. Let’s see how well you know Dr. Paul. Take the Dr.Paulism Quiz and keep your score. Here we go: Love your kids no matter what and even if… Simple isn’t easy People over possessions Values over valuable That’s a thought The great thing is you don’t have to like it (or want to do it) Or not You are never wrong about how you feel You are always right about how you feel Feel the fear and do it anyway Does…

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5 Benefits of Group Coaching

By M-Power

You know I’m a fan of group coaching, but you may still be hesitant. And that’s o.k. I want to share with you what a real member of Live On Purpose Central said about the group coaching we do weekly. This is part of the actual email: Getting your advice is really helpful. Little snippets of information on how to apply simple models to my life gives me new ways of thinking. Being in front of other people and being recorded pushes me to do more summary thinking which I find has added power to change my thinking and habits. Hearing other people struggle helps promote positive evaluation (e.g., it is normal to struggle) Hearing other people’s stories gives me a story bank to remember and talk about the application of the principles / models Hearing other people’s stories gives me the opportunity to try and solve their problems (e.g.,…

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By M-Power

For most of you that read this newsletter, fall is just around the corner. I know many don’t want to hear that, but it will happen regardless if we choose to put our fingers in our ears and close our eyes. With the change in seasons, many kids are heading back to school and new routines. I recently had a comment left by a parent on YouTube on a video I did about self-worth.  The parent talked about challenging their kids to do something and they pushed the kids a bit instead of stepping in and doing it themselves. They let them struggle a bit though they were there supervising the whole time and encouraging them.  Of course, at the beginning, the kids weren’t happy about this, but as time went on and they got the hang of doing something they didn’t think they could, well everything changed.  Their demeanor…

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The Best of Intentions and Why That Isn’t Good Enough

By M-Power

Intentions We have the best of them. We are not going to yell anymore. We are not going to snip back at our co-worker. We are going to clean the house. We are going to workout. And then… You know how it goes. Only now, we did what we said we weren’t going to do and we didn’t didn’t do what we said we were going to do.  Ugh! Why does this happen? Because we haven’t trained our brain to do something different. We haven’t given our brain and our bodies the tools they need to do something different. We CAN train our brains to respond differently. We CAN train our brains to think differently. I did it and you can also. There is nothing wrong with you, you just don’t have the tools you need in your toolbox to get you to where you want to go. I have…

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Accept Responsibility – Save Relationships

By M-Power

I didn’t mean to do it. I didn’t mean to say that. That’s not what I intended. Have you ever said one of these? Most likely you have. I have. I am not here to beat you up. We all make mistakes, and we all need to be free with our forgiveness. Yet, if you find yourself being caught up in saying these sentences too often, it might be an indicator that we need to do some thinking and self-examination. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” Marshall B. Rosenberg Part of maturing is becoming in tune to our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and how they affect other people. The danger comes in when we are not conscious of our responsibility, and it hurts other people.  Our goal at Live On Purpose is to help enrich and save key relationships….

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The Benefits of Coaching

By M-Power

When we think of coaching we immediately think of sports. Every team has a coach. It is the responsibility of the coach to get the team working together and be successful.  You might be surprised that athletes often have their own private coach(es). And coaches are not limited to sports. There are vocal coaches for amateur and professional singers. Business people have coaches, even Steve Jobs and Bill Gates have used coaches. They all have coaches to help them get to a higher level in their game. Coaches aren’t just for the professionals. A coach can help you: Have more confidence. Make you more aware. Figure out your desires and purpose. Develop the skills and abilities you need to make positive changes. Challenge your beliefs. This can lead to new perspective and insights that you never recognized before but were right there in front of you.  Have AHA moments that…

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Living On Purpose with Problems

By M-Power

I talk a lot about our purpose but, hey, did you see the logo? Live On Purpose. It seems some people think their purpose is to be free of all problems.  They are going to be happy, they are going to be successful, they are going to be content when they don’t have problems. Do you know anyone who has never had any problems, challenges or obstacles in life? I don’t.  Even babies have problems. They cry because they can’t take care of the problem themselves. Perhaps our purpose in life is not to be free of any problems, challenges, or adversities. Perhaps our purpose is to rise to the challenges we are given. We Live On Purpose when we accept the challenges and use our skills or acquire new ones to deal with the obstacles.  Think about it, if the purpose of life was to not have any problems at…

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REVERSE GOSSIP

By M-Power

Everyone knows how damaging gossip can be, to the gossiper and those being gossiped about. My friend, Bob Burg had a great idea that I just have to pass along. It is an idea that if utilized could reduce negativity and increase positivity. The Reverse Gossip Game The rules are easy: “…say something kind, encouraging, edifying, and complimentary…behind someone’s back.” “We could never have pulled this project off without Mike’s great work.” “Did you see how hard Zara worked on her art project? It turned out fabulous.” “I love how Colby knows just the right people to task for projects and helps people to stay focused.” This is a WIN/WIN game. The person you are talking to knows that you speak positively about other people and is more likely to make a connection with you. Your stock will rise in the person you were talking about when he or she hears…

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Give It a Try

By M-Power

Accept the Challenge In going through YouTube comments recently, there were several that caught my eye.  These were the ones that said they were going to give what I was discussing in the videos a try. These comments make me smile. They light me up. They fill me with hope. When we open ourselves up to “try” something, we are opening up hope and a belief in our capacity to do things differently. The things they were trying were varied. Some were to stop yelling at their kids, some were to practice gratitude, some were to get motivated to take care of things they have been letting go. What we need to “try” is individual and unique to each of us. Let’s just be open enough to let in the idea of trying take root.  After that, we can move to doing. What are you needing to try? Check out…

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You Can Make Your Life Less Frustrating with This One Tip

By M-Power

When I learned this one tip, life got easier. Detach from the outcomes. This makes sense because can we really control the outcome? Probably not.  Have you ever been absolutely sure of what should happen?  Not kind of hoped for, but you absolutely KNEW what the outcome needed to be to ensure your future happiness and success. And probably that of your spouse and children, (eye roll). And then something other than what you were sure was the best option was chosen. Now what do you do?  Consider challenging your perception of the outcome. Is the world going to come to an end?  Are you never going to be happy? Is your life over? NO! When you are feeling tipped over or upset about something, stand back. There is almost always more than one solution to a problem. More than one path to a goal. Allow yourself to become more…

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