Who are some of your favorite grouches?
Oscar the Grouch?
Ouch, I hope the last one doesn’t ring true, but I get asked all the time, how do I stop being angry all the time?
Anger is a secondary emotion.
It usually follows another emotion like frustration or disappointment.
So then, why do we switch to anger?
Because anger is an active emotion.
We know what to do with anger.
You know how to throw your arms up the air.
You know how to mean mug.
You know the body language.
You know how to YELL.
You know how to strike out.
It isn’t as obvious as what to do with sadness or loss.
That emotion is not as active.
We sulk, we cry, we sit.
See, not as much expression and why we use the secondary emotion to cover up the primary emotion.
We have to get real about the source of our anger and deal with those emotions.
Warning, it is not fun to deal with these emotions, and that is why we jump to anger, to avoidance.
It can be difficult, it can be painful and it can take a long time to figure out.
That is why it is a good idea to hire a coach or see a therapist so they can help you gain some personal insight to get to the bottom of what is happening and deal with the primary emotion.
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