Insights & Strategies for a Purposeful Life

Explore expert advice, powerful mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you overcome challenges, build resilience, and create lasting success.

Power of Positivity

The Power of POSITIVITY: 9 Key Traits to Transform Your Life

Positivity, or the power of positivity, is more than just a fleeting emotion—it’s a mindset, a way of living, and a powerful tool for success. Research has shown that people with a positive outlook experience better health, stronger relationships, and greater overall satisfaction in life. But how do you cultivate true positivity? One way is by understanding the essential traits that make up a positive mindset and embracing the power of positivity daily. Embracing the power of positivity can significantly impact your life. By harnessing the power of positivity, you can improve your overall well-being and create a ripple effect of positivity in your community. The power of positivity can transform your life in ways you never imagined. Using the

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BELLS for Holiday Stress

BELLS for Holiday Stress

Why do the holidays become stressful? Often the answer to that question is that we get tied up in all of the “to do”s and “by when”s that are implied in getting everything done. The holidays are for people, not the other way around. Let's look at an acronym that

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The Influence Quadrant

The Influence Quadrant

This has been a very popular topic for my recent trainings and keynotes, and has a profound implication for leadership. Think about your own thinking for a moment and notice that whenever you are in a conversation, communication, or interaction with another person, your focus is somewhere. Paying attention to

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Improve Marriage

Upgrade Your Relationship

A couple in my office recently heard me say, “You need a new marriage.” She looked at me with surprise in her face, they were paying me to help them save their marriage, not to tell them they need a new one. “Keep your spouse, ” I responded, “and get

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Grateful for Abundance

Grateful For Abundance

“Buy now while supplies last! Get while the getting is good. All good things must come to an end.” There is never enough. Never enough good deals. Never enough stuff in our closet or garage. Never enough time, money, love, attention. Sometimes we operate in a constant perception of scarcity.

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Happiness is a Choice

Until You See it as a Choice, It's Not

You've heard it before right? Happiness is a choice. That can sometimes be offensive, especially when I'm not feeling happy. What are you saying? That it's my fault?! The thing is, until we see it as a choice, it's not. This is because of a process in our own mind

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Secret to Positivity

How To Stay Positive

Have you wondered how to stay positive when things are so hard? Our mind is an amazing tool that, when properly used, can assist us to stay in positivity mode no matter what. Take ten minutes to give yourself the gift of understanding how to operate the equipment of your

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Better By Six

How sure are you that six o'clock is coming? Pretty darn sure? How sure are you that you will be around for six o'clock? Almost as sure? Yes, six o'clock is coming, and most likely we are going to be around for six o'clock. I used to think that there

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Just Be Yourself

Just be yourself, because everybody else is taken. I first encountered this message on the profile of a young Facebook friend. Now Alex Boye' has captured it in a song. This inspired me, so I thought to pass it along to you. Thanks for being who you are – nobody

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Hate or Love

Do you have a hard time listening to or watching the news? If you are like me, you have probably noticed and been troubled by the barrage of negativity and hate that has pounded us in the mainstream media. Police versus citizens, black versus white, Clinton versus Trump, us versus

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Hope

As you may know, I have been preparing for several months now to host the World Hopecast, which is happening this week! My sweetheart, Vicki, shared with me a thought that I wanted to pass along. She asked me a question that got me thinking about the difference between hope

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Down is Default

Why can it be so hard to stay positive? Why is it so easy to get sucked into the negativity trap? Unless there is some force to the contrary, Mother Nature’s default is downhill. Mountains erode, buildings crumble, roads deteriorate, bridges eventually collapse. Rain falls, hits the ground, and flows downhill.

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The Love Choice

Immaculée Ilibagiza crouched beside seven other women in a cramped twelve square foot bathroom in Rwanda for three months, being careful not to make a sound so the bloodthirsty Hutu killing raids would not discover them and thrust their bodies onto the piles of rotting corpses that were Immaculée’s family

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because I said I would

This is the simple phrase that was printed at the bottom of a card that my friend Logan handed me when we bumped into each other at baggage claim as I returned home from the National Speaker's Association Convention in Washington, D.C. No flare. No pretense. Just a promise. Bound by my

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Portable Positivity

How do you feel when life dumps on you? How would you like to feel? Focus right now on any tough situation you are going through. Now, without minimizing what you are facing, consider these two ways of looking at it: –  Things should have been better and are about

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Problem Solving Tools: #1 – Appreciate Discontent

Necessity is the mother of invention. Difficult situations inspire ingenious solutions. I share a story in the first chapter of my book where I was stuck in the muck, frustrated, worried, dissatisfied. It was while in this state I finally saw how my own thinking was getting in my way,

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How To Develop Positive Attitude

How to Develop Positive Attitude: Three Basic Steps Step One: Find the good in what is. The whole idea behind Pathological Positivity is that there are up sides and down sides to everything. What is, is always between better and worse. It could always be better than it is now,

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Heed the Whisper

Do you hear the voices? Some people get a little nervous when I ask them this question. I’m a shrink, and I’m asking if you hear the voices? But we all hear them. You might even hear one right now saying, “What voices? I don’t know what he’s talking about.”

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Gratitude Attitude

From a positive psychology perspective, our mind handles two very distinct tasks – evaluation of what is, and creation of what is to be. Powerful creation starts with and is powered up by what we do in the evaluation mode. When we find the good in what is, we are

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Work Makes Things Work

To manifest great things we must do a little more work than we may have anticipated, but less than we fear. Remember, stuff just sits there until you move it. Water runs downhill until you add pipes and pressure to alter its course. Cake ingredients are just ingredients until someone

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Welcome to the Stairs

A video clip from an advertisement for Becel Heart Healthy Products features two people going up an escalator. The escalator suddenly clunks to an abrupt stop. “Oh, that’s not good,” one says, as the other complains, “I don’t need this. I’m already late!” They shout for help. Their need for rescue

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Pathological Positivity Book

Eliminating vs Illuminating

What have you noticed about problems and challenges? polemecatech.com/bad-credit-loans-personal-money-collateral If you are like most people, you encounter problems and challenges on a regular basis, and some of them don't seem to go away. Keeping a positive perspective through these challenges is essential to our mental health and sense of happiness.

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Completely Full

You’ve heard the question a hundred times:             “Is the glass half empty or half full?”             If we are operating in noxious negativity mode we see the glass as half empty. It is absolutely true. It is half empty. Of course it is. Any dang fool can see it’s

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