Canceled! If you are on social media or watch the news you will see that people are increasingly quick to “cancel” someone they don’t agree with. Canceling someone is publicly denouncing them and seeking to ruin their reputation or career. This practice is so common that it is now considered a form of online activism. […]
This week has been busy as I am training 11 new Positivity Practitioners. The newsletter this week is from Sue Meintjes, who interviewed me for the wonderful work they are doing to support parents. Click on the link at the bottom of the article to get a ton of information to help you with your
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I am all for challenging, striving, reaching, becoming. Those words give us a sense of the future. Yet, sometimes we rob ourselves of happiness in the moment when we focus too much on the future. When we THINK we have to be something we aren’t yet. It is possible to have goals and hopes for
There is a saying in AA: Expectations are Premeditated Resentments. If you have feelings of resentment, you can almost always look back and find unrealized expectations that led to the resentment. Being frustrated and resentful inhibits our ability to think logically and clearly. It pushes us to a place where we say things like: “This
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Recently my computer was giving me some problems, things weren’t pulling up the way they should and I couldn’t get some of the add-ons to work. So, I did a reboot. Yep, shut the whole thing down, gave it a rest and re-booted. And wha-la, everything started working the way it should. Sometimes our brains
January is traditionally a time for new beginnings. Not everyone hops on the path to a new destination as they see others down the path and don’t think they can ever get there. But where did those people further down the path start? Where you are! Does that change anything for you? “Your present circumstances
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I think back to the many Christmases shared with our family and remember the excitement as presents were added under the tree during December. The kids would run to see whose name was on the gift and could hardly contain their excitement when they saw their name. The gifts would be played with and worn,
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Christmas is a time of imagination and creativity. Sometimes people use their imagination in the wrong way. It isn’t all sugar plums and twinkling lights. They imagine troubles, hardships, scarcity and conflict. No twinkling lights there. Dan Zadra said, “Worry is the misuse of imagination.” We have a choice – allow your imagination to think
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I am a positivity expert and I hadn’t even heard the term toxic positivity until the pandemic. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire the circumstances, you should just think positive. It is denying the pain. Pushing it down and ignoring it, hoping it will go away. The problem with toxic positivity
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Do you like TED Talks or Inspirational Speakers? The psychologist in me is fascinated by these speeches. There is a common thread through most of the talks given. There was something hard. Obstacles and problems were placed before them. It was something they would not have chosen for themselves. They suffered, but persevered. The person
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