Dr. Paul Jenkins

May 23

My Reason to Celebrate

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The topic of birthdays came up the other day and one woman said, “I don’t have those anymore.” Well, I do and my twin sister is about to have another one. I like birthdays because I like to get together with family and friends and celebrate. I like birthdays because I can reflect on what has happened in the past year and make goals for what I want to accomplish in the coming year. I like birthdays because it breaks up the normal routine. I like birthdays because I like cake and ice cream. I like birthdays because I get to think about other people and celebrate them. There could be many things to not like about birthdays, but I choose to celebrate people and their goodness. I get it, not everything about getting older is fun, but I would rather celebrate another birthday than not. And though in my

May 18

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Write the Story, Especially the Next Chapter

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The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Socrates Have you ever met someone who declares they are over someone or a situation and then they go on and on talking about that person or situation? They say they want change. They say they don’t want to be stuck. They say they want to move on. And then they rehash the old – again. The thing is the past is the past and what has happened has happened, we can’t make events turn out different than they are. I always say something is not an option until someone sees it as an option. We don’t exercise the option to change because we don’t see the option. There are many ways to get unstuck. Some have become more mindful to help stay in the present. Some have journaled

May 09

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Change Your Words, Change Your Mindset

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I saw this message on a board this week and the truth leapt out. Our words can either limit us or help us to grow. And we have the choice of which words we use and listen to. “I messed up.” OK, well, who hasn’t. What if we changed the words to, “What can I learn from this experience?” “This is really hard.” Whatever you are doing is probably hard, because every time we do something for the first time it is difficult. We don’t have the muscle memory to know how to act. What if we changed the words to, “I need more/other skills to help me get better at this.” “I’m not good at this.” Michael Jordan was told he wasn’t good at basketball, but he kept practicing. What if we changed the words to, “I will keep practicing so I can get better at this.” “I give

May 05

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Little Known Byproduct of Forgiveness

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Forgiveness can be hard for some people. Forgiveness is also a powerful emotion that can have a lasting impact on both personal and work life. When some people are holding back forgiveness from someone who sincerely is sorry and is trying to change it may be helpful to keep in mind an important byproduct of forgiveness. Forgiveness can help to foster loyalty between two people. I don’t know of any relationship where there has been perfect communication and understanding of where the other person was coming from, past hurts and disappointments and grace given always in abundance. Perhaps because there are no perfect people. Communication can be confusing. We aren’t at our best every day of our lives. We may be sick, upset about something, sleep deprived. Without forgiveness the disagreement can moulder and fester. With forgiveness the bond can become stronger which leads to increased loyalty. In the workplace,

Apr 27

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Get Your Free Book

By DrPaul M-Power

My friend, Sue Meintjes, has just released a new ebook called “How To Get Kids To Listen”, containing 18 short interviews with leading parenting experts. And, yes, I’m one of the featured interviews. I was so impressed with all the content, I arranged for you to get a copy for free. It features 10-minute interviews with leading parenting experts who share their single best strategy to get your kids to listen and cooperate…without yelling and begging! Some of the chapters include: You can get your free copy of this ebook by clicking here: https://www.ExpertParentingAdvice.com/listen/dr-paul-jenkins I hope you enjoy this valuable gift. I know it will help you get your kids to cooperate more, while at the same time building a deeper, more positive relationship with them. You can download it here: https://www.ExpertParentingAdvice.com/listen/dr-paul-jenkins DrPaul

Apr 03

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You Are Canceled!

By DrPaul M-Power

Canceled! If you are on social media or watch the news you will see that people are increasingly quick to “cancel” someone they don’t agree with. Canceling someone is publicly denouncing them and seeking to ruin their reputation or career. This practice is so common that it is now considered a form of online activism. This article is not about determining when and if it is ok to cancel someone or talk about specific instances. We can benefit from standing back a bit and considering if there are other ways we can go about standing up for what we believe and making a difference without canceling people. The dangers of canceling people are not to be taken lightly. Canceling someone can have serious consequences for BOTH the person who is canceled and the ones who are canceling. There may be a benefit to not canceling the person and employing some

Mar 18

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Spring Forward to a Good Night’s Sleep

By DrPaul M-Power

As if getting a good night’s sleep isn’t tough enough for some people, recently we threw in Daylight Savings Time in the United States. It reminded me about the benefits of getting a good night’s sleep. (And, there are many). Sleep helps to restore the body, improve memory and concentration, and boost mood. It also helps to strengthen the immune system and reduce inflammation. And most importantly, it helps us to live a life of positivity. Getting enough sleep is essential for living a healthy, positive life. One of the major benefits of getting a good night’s sleep is that it helps to improve your cognitive function. A good night’s sleep can help to improve your memory and concentration, as well as your ability to think clearly and make decisions. Any parent will tell you that it is easier to stay calm and not yell when you have had enough

Mar 07

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The Next Right Thing

By DrPaul M-Power

Life can be overwhelming. Sometimes it is difficult to know what is the right thing to do. Sometimes it is hard to find the courage and strength to do the next thing. When you feel overwhelmed, you just want the problem to go away. Take a deep breath and repeat: “I don’t have to solve this all today, I just need to be brave, cling to hope, and do the next right thing.” You don’t have to have all the answers today. Remember the old joke about how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Feel the pressure lift off your shoulders. The entire problem does not need to be solved today. Focus on the task present – today. A series of small steps will make a big difference. Even when you know the next right thing to do, it can feel scary or uncertain.Take comfort in knowing

Mar 01

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The Best Way To Help the World is To Develop Your Talents

By DrPaul M-Power

In a world where resources are increasingly scarce and things can seem out of our control, developing one’s talents can be a powerful way of making a positive impact. For starters, developing your talents can lead to a more fulfilled and meaningful life. There’s no denying that when you focus on honing your skills, you can be more productive, more creative, and more successful. It can also give you a sense of purpose and direction, allowing you to focus on something you are passionate about. BONUS: When you are focused in this way, the difficult parts of life can seem less draining. The real power of developing your talents, however, is that it can be used to create something that can benefit the world. Some people make a career out of their talents and I appreciate those people more than I can say. When I listen to my daughter play

Feb 21

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Developing Positive Habits Through Checklists

By DrPaul M-Power

Positive habits get us to our goals. The tricky part is breaking habits that aren’t helping us achieve our goals and establishing positive habits that help to reach those goals. I have a hack for you. Checklists A checklist is simply a list of tasks to be completed. It is that simple, but remember – simple is not always easy. A checklist helps to stay focused and is a reminder of the objective. Almost everyone has used a checklist when they go to the grocery store. It helps you remember the items you need and can help to limit spending and eat better (if we stick to the list). The same benefits are available in any other area of life. Checklists are a simple yet powerful tool that can help us form positive habits because it forces us to stay focused on the tasks necessary to reach our goals. If you are a visual person,

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