If you have listened to me long enough you have heard me say, “You are never wrong about how you feel.” You have also heard me say, “Feelings are temporary.” These seem to be contradictory but they actually aren’t. Feelings are useful to check in to what we are experiencing. Then, if we want to stay there, […]
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“I’ll have a blue, blue Christmas, without you.” We know Elvis is singing about unrequited love, but there are many reasons people can be feeling the Holiday Blues. Often other feelings accompany the malaise, including anxiety, loneliness, and stress. The good news is feelings change and there are things you can do to change your
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“It’s not my fault.” “I didn’t sign up for this.” As a psychologist I hear different refrains of this idea over and over. And I tell those that express the sentiment – you are right! You didn’t ask for this and it isn’t your fault. Now, what are you going to do? We don’t have
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I hurt my back. No, not a big deal and not something new. It happens and contrary to what my wife says, it has nothing to do with the fact that my twin sister has a birthday coming soon. Nothing at all! Now, I know what I should do when this happens. I know it!
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It’s International Day of Failure. Did you catch that? International! We could change it to global. EVERYONE makes mistakes and those mistakes can lead us to feel like a failure. Why, if everyone makes mistakes do we jump to failure? As a professional psychologist, can I tell you that you are never wrong about how
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Toxic. That brings to mind poisonous, right? Time to call poison control? I went on the internet and did a little search for how to deal with poison or toxin. As we talk about toxic family members, I think that there’s some overlap here that might be helpful. 3 different strategies or approaches. So, let’s
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