We will keep this quick this week since many of you are celebrating Thanksgiving with family and friends.We are grateful for you and every effort you have made to spread positivity in a world that gravitates to negativity.We are grateful for you watching LOPTV YouTube videos, reading our newsletters and books. Those that joined us […]
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“It’s not my fault.” “I didn’t sign up for this.” As a psychologist I hear different refrains of this idea over and over. And I tell those that express the sentiment – you are right! You didn’t ask for this and it isn’t your fault. Now, what are you going to do? We don’t have
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There is a saying in AA: Expectations are Premeditated Resentments. If you have feelings of resentment, you can almost always look back and find unrealized expectations that led to the resentment. Being frustrated and resentful inhibits our ability to think logically and clearly. It pushes us to a place where we say things like: “This
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Christmas is a time of imagination and creativity. Sometimes people use their imagination in the wrong way. It isn’t all sugar plums and twinkling lights. They imagine troubles, hardships, scarcity and conflict. No twinkling lights there. Dan Zadra said, “Worry is the misuse of imagination.” We have a choice – allow your imagination to think
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I think back to the many Christmases shared with our family and remember the excitement as presents were added under the tree during December. The kids would run to see whose name was on the gift and could hardly contain their excitement when they saw their name. The gifts would be played with and worn,
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I am a positivity expert and I hadn’t even heard the term toxic positivity until the pandemic. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire the circumstances, you should just think positive. It is denying the pain. Pushing it down and ignoring it, hoping it will go away. The problem with toxic positivity
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Recently my computer was giving me some problems, things weren’t pulling up the way they should and I couldn’t get some of the add-ons to work. So, I did a reboot. Yep, shut the whole thing down, gave it a rest and re-booted. And wha-la, everything started working the way it should. Sometimes our brains
I am all for challenging, striving, reaching, becoming. Those words give us a sense of the future. Yet, sometimes we rob ourselves of happiness in the moment when we focus too much on the future. When we THINK we have to be something we aren’t yet. It is possible to have goals and hopes for
January is traditionally a time for new beginnings. Not everyone hops on the path to a new destination as they see others down the path and don’t think they can ever get there. But where did those people further down the path start? Where you are! Does that change anything for you? “Your present circumstances
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My editor tells me to avoid using words like never and always in writing. I have noticed that it is sage advice for thinking. Things are almost never or always. Do you ALWAYS lose your keys? Probably not. You might be prone to misplacing them, but that just means you need to come up with a system
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