Let’s take the example of someone in a relationship that is not serving them well. It could be a relationship where you desire affection and want to spend time with your partner. They say they are committed, but they continue to schedule things ahead of you and don’t put you first. They avoid talking about […]
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Are you the person that people feel comfortable dumping their problems on? Dumpers aren’t really looking for solutions to their problems, they just want sympathy and to restate the wrongs being done to them. And then pretty soon they want to do it again. Nothing changes because responsibility is not accepted and they are getting
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People come to see me for a variety of reasons. They are having trouble in their marriage, their family, work, and some for personal development. Their circumstances are very individualized, but often there is one thing that is common. Relationships. There is a relationship that is in trouble or causing pain. It could be a
Something vs. Someone Read More »
People come to me and say, Dr. Paul, I want to be a better person, a better mom. I want to develop better relationships or people skills. I want to be happier or more positive. And I ask them, so that…? The things they want to accomplish are all good, they are admirable, but the
What is Your “So That” Read More »
Hey, I forgot to mention in our last email about family councils that you can do this with whoever is living with you. It could be your spouse and children, or just your children. It could be just you. It could be your roommate. This is about building the relationships that are close to us,
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Prevent opening mouth and inserting foot with these 5 questions Problems are universal. They might look different, but we all have them. When those problems are shared, well, that’s when it happens. We give advice. It is so plain to see (from our perspective), and it is so clear what the other person should do.
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Recently my daughter, Lyndi, published an article called, Seeing People Deeply: How to Be More Present in Your Relationships. She gave three really good ideas on how to do this and I wanted to share them with you. You can read the full article HERE. She starts the article talking about the deep need that
Making Connections Read More »
OK, I wasn’t sure about this. Really? We have joked at our house about everyday being kid day. Then I read this, “The purpose of this holiday is for parents to celebrate all their children and to show them love and appreciation. On this day, parents all over the United States take time out of
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There’s a lot of reasons why you’re here today, Vicki. Should a husband listen to his wife? Vicki: Hmm, let’s talk about it. Paul: This could be a very short article, seriously. Vicki: Should a husband listen to his wife? Paul: Duh? Only, only if he wants a better marriage. I had a couple, I
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My whole job here is to save and enrich key relationships. I have learned some things about what makes a marriage work. Here are the three things your spouse needs to hear every day. To introduce the first thing that your spouse needs to hear every day, I’m turning to my friend Woody Woodward. Woody
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