Forgiveness can be hard for some people. Forgiveness is also a powerful emotion that can have a lasting impact on both personal and work life. When some people are holding back forgiveness from someone who sincerely is sorry and is trying to change it may be helpful to keep in mind an important byproduct of […]
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There is a saying in AA: Expectations are Premeditated Resentments. If you have feelings of resentment, you can almost always look back and find unrealized expectations that led to the resentment. Being frustrated and resentful inhibits our ability to think logically and clearly. It pushes us to a place where we say things like: “This
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Is it possible for couples with different values to agree on effective rules for their children? Yes! When couples simplify and seek to understand each other. Let’s start with the good news: Differences make us relevant and interesting to each other. Think about it, if you and your partner were exactly the same, one of
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Take Control of You and Your Home I promise myself I am not going to yell and do good for a day or so, then find myself back in my bad habits, help me to stop. I hear myself yelling and it reminds me of my mom. I don’t want to raise my kids like
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I recently interviewed David Horsager about his new book, Trusted Leader: 8 Pillars That Drive Results. (You can listen to that HERE.) In part of the interview we talked about communication and trust. Often, when people say they want more communication, they aren’t really asking for more interaction or conversation. They are asking for trust.
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I was reminded the other day about commas. We use them when writing to create a space, a pause. How often though do we pause? We speed read through without paying any attention to the comma. Yet, a comma can make a powerful difference. “Let’s eat grandma,” or “Let’s eat, grandma.” Most of you have
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So, if you live in America, you still don’t know who will be our next president. What are you going to do about it? That’s right, nothing. Let’s talk about something we can do something about. In November we talk a lot about things we are grateful for and many of us talk about our
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As a psychologist, I talk to people who are struggling with different things. One of the saddest things I have had to deal with is the aftermath of someone dying due to suicide. Last week this hit close to home with people I know and recently a YouTube Comment made me think that it might
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Prevent opening mouth and inserting foot with these 5 questions Problems are universal. They might look different, but we all have them. When those problems are shared, well, that’s when it happens. We give advice. It is so plain to see (from our perspective), and it is so clear what the other person should do.
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Some research has suggested that yelling is just as psychologically damaging to a child as is child abuse. I’m not sure if that is completely true, but yelling can make our children feel that they are not loved. One of the most traumatic experiences for a child is to feel unloved. You know my mantra,
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