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If Only I had Spent More Time at the Office

Work and Life Balance

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This might be a misnomer – can we ever really balance it? Maybe the goal here is to be clear about priorities. Do you want to have everything balanced, or do you want to spend most of your time where it matters most at the right times? One way to prioritize your time, efforts, and resources is to focus on five key relationships. Here’s how it stacks up: Your Creator – I’m not your spiritual leader, but I acknowledge here that we all have to come to terms with our source. Your Self – Most people forget that this is actually a relationship, and thereby neglect one of the most important ones. Your Family – And within family there is a lineup as well: Spouse Children Extended Other People – Including clients, coworkers, customers, starving children in Africa. Things – Including money and property In my experience, keeping these key

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BELLS for Holiday Stress

BELLS for Holiday Stress

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Why do the holidays become stressful? Often the answer to that question is that we get tied up in all of the “to do”s and “by when”s that are implied in getting everything done. The holidays are for people, not the other way around. Let’s look at an acronym that can help us better handle holiday stress: B – Breathe – Take a moment to get perspective on what the holidays are all about. In addition to that, actually focusing for a moment on your breathing can help to move your brain from the protective fight or flight response into a more calm mode of functioning. E – Eating and Exercise – Your brain is part of your body. In fact it is the biggest energy hog of any organ in your system. Sometimes during the holidays we neglect the important physical care of our brain and body. Use moderation in eating

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The Influence Quadrant

The Influence Quadrant

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This has been a very popular topic for my recent trainings and keynotes, and has a profound implication for leadership. Think about your own thinking for a moment and notice that whenever you are in a conversation, communication, or interaction with another person, your focus is somewhere. Paying attention to feelings, in the first column my focus is on How I Feel, and in the second column my focus is on How You Feel. Now who is it about? In the top row, my focus is About Me. In the bottom row my focus is About You. We overlay these two dimensions to form a quadrant model. With both dimensions combined, we see that our focus could be in one of these four areas. In the upper left my focus is on how I feel about myself. In the upper right my focus is on how you feel about me.

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Improve Marriage

Upgrade Your Relationship

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A couple in my office recently heard me say, “You need a new marriage.” She looked at me with surprise in her face, they were paying me to help them save their marriage, not to tell them they need a new one. “Keep your spouse, ” I responded, “and get a new marriage.” Better is always different – by definition. That isn’t always true the other way around, and that’s why different can seem scary. If we truly want an upgrade, it depends on our willingness to change. The good news is… You can upgrade your relationship today, right now, without materially changing anything about your spouse or situation. Try this: Find gratitude in where you are right now without changing anything. Notice the good and focus on it. This doesn’t make the bad go away, what it does is changes your position. Through gratitude for what it is, you

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Grateful for Abundance

Grateful For Abundance

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“Buy now while supplies last! Get while the getting is good. All good things must come to an end.” There is never enough. Never enough good deals. Never enough stuff in our closet or garage. Never enough time, money, love, attention. Sometimes we operate in a constant perception of scarcity. From a position of scarcity, not only can we never have enough, we can never do enough, or be enough. This scarcity focus starts first thing in the morning with a depressed groan, “I never get enough sleep.” “I don’t have the energy to do this.” “I don’t have time.” In scarcity mode we constantly feel overwhelmed and dissatisfied. We always need more. Scarcity perception causes us to grab, hoard, cling to, all we can. We are there in force on Black Friday (which is now creeping in on Thursday). We shop in a feeding frenzy, climbing over and pushing

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Until You See it as a Choice, It’s Not

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You’ve heard it before right? Happiness is a choice. That can sometimes be offensive, especially when I’m not feeling happy. What are you saying? That it’s my fault?! The thing is, until we see it as a choice, it’s not. This is because of a process in our own mind that puts most of our thinking on auto-pilot. We don’t even think about things that we have already programmed into the neural pathways of our mind, so the very processes causing our emotional experience are not even noticed. They are obvious, but unnoticed, until they are called to our attention. This is why I love my job so much – I get to illuminate the obvious, which puts people in position to actually have more choice and control. I’ve summarized the two main processes that make happiness a choice (evaluation and creation) in this 16-minute video. Will you help me share

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Secret to Positivity

How To Stay Positive

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Have you wondered how to stay positive when things are so hard? Our mind is an amazing tool that, when properly used, can assist us to stay in positivity mode no matter what. Take ten minutes to give yourself the gift of understanding how to operate the equipment of your own mind. This video is a quick summary of how our imagination serves us in two separate and important processes of our mind – evaluation and creation. Worry is the misuse of imagination ~ Dan Zadra

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Better By Six

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How sure are you that six o’clock is coming? Pretty darn sure? How sure are you that you will be around for six o’clock? Almost as sure? Yes, six o’clock is coming, and most likely we are going to be around for six o’clock. I used to think that there were three options – I have narrowed it down to two because that third one is not even possible. I used to think that maybe things will be exactly the same at six o’clock as they are right now. Think about it, at the very least you will be a few hours older. You may be more hungry or more tired – it kind of depends on what you did just before six o’clock. Things will definitely NOT be the same at six o’clock. If that is true, then by your own judgment things will be either better or worse

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Just Be Yourself

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Just be yourself, because everybody else is taken. I first encountered this message on the profile of a young Facebook friend. Now Alex Boye’ has captured it in a song. This inspired me, so I thought to pass it along to you. Thanks for being who you are – nobody else can do it! Choice is your privilege, your birthright, your heritage. Choice is your curse if you fail to exercise it to elevate your life and fuel your endeavors. ~ Stephen Palmer

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Hate or Love

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The love choice is higher ground. Love lifts and heals hurt. As we firmly, but kindly order our mind to do so, our mind will, after some initial resistance, work very hard to support the love choice. The more painful or difficult the situation, the harder it is to choose love, and the more positively life altering it is when we do so. Choose love!

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