Let’s take the example of someone in a relationship that is not serving them well. It could be a relationship where you desire affection and want to spend time with your partner. They say they are committed, but they continue to schedule things ahead of you and don’t put you first. They avoid talking about […]
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Are you the person that people feel comfortable dumping their problems on? Dumpers aren’t really looking for solutions to their problems, they just want sympathy and to restate the wrongs being done to them. And then pretty soon they want to do it again. Nothing changes because responsibility is not accepted and they are getting
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People come to me and say, Dr. Paul, I want to be a better person, a better mom. I want to develop better relationships or people skills. I want to be happier or more positive. And I ask them, so that…? The things they want to accomplish are all good, they are admirable, but the
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Hey, I forgot to mention in our last email about family councils that you can do this with whoever is living with you. It could be your spouse and children, or just your children. It could be just you. It could be your roommate. This is about building the relationships that are close to us,
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Recently my daughter, Lyndi, published an article called, Seeing People Deeply: How to Be More Present in Your Relationships. She gave three really good ideas on how to do this and I wanted to share them with you. You can read the full article HERE. She starts the article talking about the deep need that
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Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our jobs as parents or in our relationships and we are really good at loving people but not so good at loving ourselves. I have three powerful steps that you take to love yourself. I really like to think of love as a choice and as a verb,
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People Before Problems Relationships Before Rules Values Before Valuables Making Memories Before Messes Babies Before Business Humor Before Hassle Paul: It’s not the first time we’ve taken this one on, Vicki. How often does this come up for us? Vicki: All the time, I think. Paul: We get requests. We get comments. We get people
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Vicki, I’m not sure if I’m really a qualified perfectionist. Maybe I used to. Vicki: Probably a lot more. Paul: I think there were times when I was really kind of uptight about things, like they need to be a certain way, and I’ve since abandoned that for something that’s much more joyful for me.
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Before I tell you how to have a good divorce, I have to tell you how to have a terrible, nasty, caustic divorce. This works really well. Step 1, blame someone for your misery. And you know who to blame too, don’t you? Yeah, you do. It’s not too hard to find that person to
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