Pathological Positivity

Jan 06

Address the Elephant in the Room

By DrPaul M-Power

It happens in marriages; it happens in families. It happens at work, school and in your community. Problems. There are always problems. News alert: There will always be problems… If you see them as problems. In my book, Pathological Positivity, I talk about “propportunities.” Instead of seeing a problem, see an opportunity. Changing the name gets our minds working. We know that words are just words. Words get their power when we attach meaning to them. Problem. The attached meaning is negative, bad, something we want to avoid. Opportunity. The chance to do something. We get to decide the action we will take. Problems seem like they happen to us, without our consent. We become passive and it is easy to slip into victim mode. Opportunities are something we buy into and therefore our chances of handling them in a successful way increase. We also gain valuable personal development when we solve

Jan 05

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Happy New Year 2022

By DrPaul M-Power

In my Merry Christmas Email (and I hope you all had a Merry Christmas), I talked about The Feeling of Christmas. The Feeling is something I write about in Chapter 3 of my book, Pathological Positivity. The Feeling is a universally sought-after emotional state. We seek love, why? To have The Feeling. We seek money, why? To have The Feeling we get from the value we placed on obtaining money. We seek goals, why? To get The Feeling associated with obtaining the goal. We all want The Feeling that life is good. But, sometimes we just don’t know how to get there. And that is o.k. because there are tools and knowledge you can learn to guide your journey to The Feeling. At Live On Purpose we have made many changes this year to get these tools and knowledge into your hands to help you feel The Feeling more often

Mar 04

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Positivity is Possible in a Pandemic (or anytime)

By DrPaul M-Power

I don’t know if you have ever written something and looked back at it later and thought, “What was I thinking?” or “Wow, that is still relevant today.” I did this recently with this excerpt from my book, Pathological Positivity. Remember, I wrote this in 2014 and we know the world has changed a bit in the last seven years. “What we interpret, reinterpret, create or recreate on purpose with Pathological Positivity becomes what is – and thereby becomes real. We feel successful as soon as we appreciate what is as good, and see what is to be as even better. Like a child excited to open birthday presents, the pathologically positive relish and enjoy the anticipation of great things to come – no matter how things seem here and now.” Is this true in a pandemic? One that has been going on for over a year and still affects

Mar 20

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How To Overcome The Fear Of Public Speaking

By DrPaul M-Power

I’ve prepared four strategies to help you overcome your fear of public speaking. It’s actually one of the most common fears. On lists of fears that we have looked at or researched, public speaking comes in ahead of death in terms of what people fear. Jerry Seinfeld picked this up and he said, “You know what that means is the guy giving the eulogy would rather be in the box.” But you know what? It’s not the fear of public Speaking so much as the fear of not speaking well in public. Think about what I’m saying you are not really afraid of speaking. You are afraid of speaking poorly. That will give us some clues as to what you can do to overcome that fear. Dale Dixon is a friend of mine in the National Speakers Association. He wrote a book called, “Sweating Bullets.” It’s all about what we

Mar 05

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Should I Spend Money On Personal Coaching?

By DrPaul M-Power

Maybe you’re asking yourself, “Should I spend money on personal coaching?” The quick answer: It depends. And I’ll tell you exactly what it depends on. Let’s start by asking some good questions to hone in on whether that would be a good decision for you. Now, I sell personal coaching, it’s my business. It’s what I do, it’s what I love. But I’m not here to sell you on coaching. I want you to make a good decision about whether you should spend your time and money on this kind of a proposition. Ask yourself: Number 1, “Do I want to learn a new skill or knowledge set?” Hmm, you probably do if you are considering personal coaching. But really, that’s the purpose of doing it in the first place. Some people want to get into coaching and they have no idea of what it is that they are going

Feb 08

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The Importance Of Positivity And 5 Ways To Increase It

By DrPaul M-Power

Your brain is created for efficiency and one way it accomplishes this is through neural pathways or programming. Think of cruise control or autopilot. If you want to change your programming, it’s going to take some intention and you are going to have to do this intentionally. The first thing that is required is an intentional decision on your part to increase your positivity. It’s absolutely possible and I can help you if you decide to become more positive. I can tell if somebody is really serious about a declaration or a decision that they state. It shows up in two specific places in their life. It shows up in their calendar and it shows up in their checkbook. They are willing to spend their time and their money to make this happen. If you are not at that level then you probably don’t even have to finish reading this

Jan 27

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What You Should Know Before Writing A Book

By DrPaul M-Power

I’ve now written three books with a few more coming, and I think I know a few things that could save you some time. These three books have taught me a lot about what you need to know in order to write a book or before you write it. The first thing to ask is, “Who is this for? Who is my audience?” That’s important because the tone of this book will be dictated by who you think is going to be reading it. The obvious example: If you are writing a children’s book, you are going to approach that very differently than if you are going to write a textbook for medical students. Those are pretty diverse audiences. Get clear on who is your audience and that will help you to shape not only your message but the way you deliver the content. I asked who’s your audience who’s

Jan 25

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How To Stop Worrying About Money

By DrPaul Uncategorized

Money is one of the most common things that people worry about. How do you stop worrying about money? I’ve got 3 easy steps for you today, and the last one is the most powerful. Step one is understanding worry. We are going to stop worrying about money. Let’s understand worry first. What is it? I’m a psychologist, I deal with this all the time. Worry is the negative prediction of what is to be. Think about that for a minute. We all constantly imagining what is coming. It doesn’t exist because we haven’t created it yet. Think about that. How you doing next week? You don’t know. You have something to do with it. Please remember that, but you don’t know. So, the only place that exists right now is in your imagination. Can you imagine things getting worse for you? Just play along with me for a moment.

Jan 22

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Understanding And Fixing Low Self-Esteem

By DrPaul M-Power

Let’s take on the understanding of low self-esteem first. One of my college professors was a leading researcher in this field. Dr. Richard Bednar and his colleagues did a landmark study back in the 80’s that was published by the American Psychological Association that shook up what we knew about self-esteem. We used to think that it was based on achievement or having people treat us in a way that built us up. That’s not what they found. These researchers found that self-esteem is based primarily on one factor, seeing yourself taking on hard things. Think about that for a minute. It’s not even whether you succeed in taking on those hard things. It’s simply seeing yourself take on hard things. Conversely, low self-esteem was correlated with seeing yourself running away from hard things, or an avoidant pattern. That takes a toll on self-esteem. There are a lot of paradoxes

Jan 14

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Best Books for Entrepreneurs

By DrPaul M-Power

In much of my coaching, I get to work with entrepreneurs. People like you who want to make a difference. Today, I’ll cover my tips for the top 10 books for entrepreneurs. You might know I have written a book, Pathological Positivity. I’m not going to put it on the list because it was too hard to narrow it down anyway. Honestly, it starts with your mindset and my book deals with that. If you want to read it, I will help you to get it by giving it to you for free, if you will just pay the shipping. Go to drpauljenkins.com. This book tells you more about my journey and how I learned about everything that I share here on the channel. I want to share that with you, so, I will throw that out first. This, I think is the starting place for changing your mindset about

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