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Nov 10

Lesson of a Colorful Paper Turkey

By DrPaul M-Power

Remember the colorful paper turkey’s we used to make in school around this time of year? On each red, yellow, or orange feather, we would write something we were grateful for. Mine often mentioned my family, friends, food, and toys, probably similar to yours. I wonder if my teachers had any idea of the benefits of writing down the things we are grateful for. Did they know that gratitude journaling can increase productivity, happiness and better health? Did they know that gratitude journaling can stimulate the prefrontal cortex to lead to better reasoning and decision making? Did they know that gratitude journaling can shift our minds away from “I” and “me” to “we” and thus relieve anxiety? Did they know that gratitude journaling can decrease feelings of depression and sadness? Did they know that gratitude journaling can make us happier – even if our circumstances have not changed? So many…

Aug 13

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Reframe Failure as Miss Takes

By DrPaul M-Power

When we film for YouTube, sometimes we have miss takes. Our miss takes occur because we might have set up the lighting at the wrong angle, a loud noise occurred or I just messed up. The film is stopped and we begin again. We get tipped over when we look at our mistakes as failures. That word leads to a different perspective that causes people to give up. The fear of failure causes people to not even venture, to not even try something because they are afraid of failing. We rob ourselves of valuable learning experiences by not trying. If we can reframe our fear of failure a little differently, then we might want to try again. Robert Kiyosaki is the best-selling author of Rich Dad Poor Dad, and he said, if you really want to succeed, start failing faster. He knows that on the road to success, there are going to be miss…

Mar 06

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In Parenting, How Strict Is Too Strict?

By DrPaul M-Power

As parents, we constantly wonder if we’re on track or not. In parenting, how strict is too strict? To answer this question. we’ve got to get into the motivation. That determines whether it’s too strict or not. Before we dive too much into that, let’s get a little bit more of a definition. Strict I think means being able to enforce appropriate limits and rules effectively without giving in or being inconsistent. This is how I’m defining it. Strict is not mean. To be a strict parent is not a bad thing. To be a mean parent, we got a problem. So, strict is not mean. Keep that in mind as we talk about this. It’s still a legitimate question. How strict is too strict? Where are you coming from as a parent? What is your motivation? What is your job as a parent? It’s so fun for me when…

Jan 23

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How To Help A Child With Reactive Attachment Disorder

By DrPaul M-Power

A viewer of Live On Purpose TV asked, “How do I help a child with reactive attachment disorder?” I’ve got at least seven ideas to share with you about that. Reactive attachment disorder is something that you may or may not know about already. Most parents who are familiar with reactive attachment disorder have adopted children. This is because reactive attachment disorder is most common in children who are adopted, who have an early history of neglect or failure to attach to a primary caregiver. There has been some kind of other childhood trauma, abuse, or neglect. This causes some very problematic things to happen in that child’s development. It is so important for children to form a healthy attachment, especially to their primary caregiver. But, also to others who are important in their life. When that is missing in the earliest stages of development, children sometimes don’t learn to…

Dec 26

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My Child Doesn’t Want To Go To School

By DrPaul M-Power

Doc, helped me, my child doesn’t want to go to school. I’ve heard it from other parents too. We want to talk more about principle than specific techniques. I believe if you have the right principles down, that’s going to help you come up with the right application or the techniques to support those principles. So, principle number 1 is – diagnosis before treatment. Sounds like an appropriate thing for the doc to say, right? We have to appropriately diagnose what’s going on before the treatment makes any sense. What if you were to go to the eye doctor and you said, “Doc, I can’t see very well.” And he says, “Oh here, try these and he takes his own glasses off and hands them to you. No, that’s not going to work because he needs to diagnose what’s going on with your eyes and then treat appropriately to that…

Dec 18

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How To Be More Patient In A Relationship

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

How To Be More Patient In A Relationship Paul: Vicki, you have got to know some stuff about how to be patient in a relationship. You’ve been living with me for how long? You know, when we don’t feel patient, it’s because of a violation. A violation of an expectation, that makes sense? Vicki: Yeah. Whether expressed or not expressed. Even realized. Paul: This is one of the benefits of metacognition. When you can think about your thinking. And back off from and say, “Okay, why am I feeling impatient?” There are 2 elements actually. One is a violation of an expectation, you expect it to go a certain way and it didn’t and so you’re feeling a little tipped over. And the other is a connection to timing. Vicki: Timing is a big one. Paul: Which is really part of the definition of being patient, is that you disconnect…

Oct 01

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Stay Positive In A Negative World

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Stay Positive In A Negative World Ahhh, election season, as if there wasn’t enough negativity in the world. So how can you stay positive in the muck? In a recent episode on YouTube, I share principles and skills that can help you Stay Positive in a Negative World. Identify Principles that are related to positivity. When you understand the principle, you can change the outcome. 1. Everything has an upside and a downside. There are pros and cons, pleasure and pain. Up does not exist except in relationship to down. Opposites define each other. 2. We constantly judge, and you can’t turn it off. Judgment also implies comparison. That you think the world is negative, is a judgment. It could always be better and always be worse depending on our judgment of what is occurring. 3. We are constantly creating and we have the ability to create a mess or hope….

Jul 29

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How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed and Depressed

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

How to Choose to Be Happy With everything on our to do lists and media bombarding us at all times, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and depressed. Would you believe me if I told you there is a way to stop feeling overwhelmed and depressed and choose to be happy? On a recent YouTube episode of Live On Purpose TV, Devan Bosch shared several experiences he has had in doing just this. Devan shared that when we are feeling down, the focus is on ourselves. We are thinking about our wants, our needs, our experiences, our feelings. The arrow, or our focus, is entirely inward. If we stay in this mode for long it is easy to experience victim thoughts and allow past hurts to have centerstage. We need to turn the arrow around, get the focus off ourselves and start thinking about others, what they might be experiencing…

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