live on purpose – Page 7 – Dr. Paul Jenkins

Oct 07

Coal and Diamonds

By DrPaul M-Power

Lead is a normally soft metal, yet when it is squeezed under enormous pressure, it becomes stronger. Henry Kissinger said, "A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure." He also reminded us that diamonds aren't made in a day. Sometimes pressure is exerted externally, without our consent and that can feel difficult. Like when a pandemic was forced on us and all the sudden we had pressures we hadn't seen coming and didn't ask for. We are largely out of the pandemic and many people learned a lot of hard lessons through the pandemic. I have observed that when people challenge themselves and don't wait for something externally to challenge them, they often get lots of benefits from their challenge. Challenging yourself can increase self-esteem because you can learn to do something that you previously could not do. Challenging yourself can increase your brain power. You…

Sep 26

Discipline

By DrPaul M-Power

DIscipline gets a bad rap in our culture. We think of it as punishment. As something to be avoided and only embraced if we have no other choice. "Discipline is rarely enjoyable, but almost always profitable."Darrin Patrick From the Latin origin, the word discipline can mean student. When you look at it from that angle, we are simply students trying to learn to do something better. We are gaining more information. We are practicing and not expected to be perfect at this moment. "We don't drift into good directions. We discipline and prioritize ourselves there." Andy Stanley Whether we are disciplining ourselves or our children, think of discipline as teaching and that can help us to be more understanding and kind to ourselves and others. I say that it takes two things to raise a child: Love and Discipline in the right amounts. It takes the same two things for…

Sep 19

Avoid These Two Words

By DrPaul M-Power

My editor tells me to avoid using words like never and always in writing. I have noticed that it is sage advice for thinking. Things are almost never or always. Do you ALWAYS lose your keys? Probably not. You might be prone to misplacing them, but that just means you need to come up with a system that works for you. Do you NEVER get it right? Probably not. There are several times throughout the day that you get something right on. Our brains like to tell us we always or never do things and it isn't true. We can train our brains to think differently. Next time you hear an always or never, understand that you are defaulting to the negative and replace it with a positive. Challenge your thinking. You can make your brain default to positivity. If you need help with that, we have the tools to change noxious negativity to…

Sep 14

You Are Enough

By DrPaul M-Power

I am all for challenging, striving, reaching, becoming. Those words give us a sense of the future. Yet, sometimes we rob ourselves of happiness in the moment when we focus too much on the future. When we THINK we have to be something we aren't yet. It is possible to have goals and hopes for what is to come -and still be happy and content with what is now. YOU are enough for the present, just the way you are. When you show up for your job, your kids, your spouse, your parents, your friend, YOU are enough right now. So smile and remember - you got this! DrPaul

Sep 06

Fall Resolutions May be Better Than New Year’s

By DrPaul M-Power

Have you nailed your New Year’s Resolution? Do you even remember what you said you were going to accomplish in 2022? It’s not too late to accomplish your goal. Fall may be a better time to make and keep a resolution anyway. Many people are facing burnout after the holidays and it is harder to have the positive mindset necessary to develop new habits when we are tired and stressed. Fall is a time of new beginnings, different clothes and routines. A year may be too long, looming distant, and it is easy to procrastinate taking the necessary steps to achieve your goal. When you have just a few months, you can build the urgency to take action. And it takes on average, a little over two months to develop a new habit that sticks. Fall is also the perfect time to make a resolution as summer is fading and…

Aug 23

How Well Do You Know Dr. Paul?

By DrPaul M-Power

Dr. Paul has been really busy lately so we are giving him a week off and taken over the newsletter. We often joke about some of Dr. Paul's catch phrases and can often anticipate what Dr. Paul will say before he says it. We call these Dr. Paulism's. While you won't find this term in the dictionary, as soon as you hear a few, you know what we mean. Let's see how well you know Dr. Paul. Take the Dr.Paulism Quiz and keep your score. Here we go: Love your kids no matter what and even if...Simple isn't easyPeople over possessionsValues over valuableThat's a thoughtThe great thing is you don't have to like it (or want to do it)Or notYou are never wrong about how you feelYou are always right about how you feelFeel the fear and do it anywayDoes that serve you well?I'm working for YOUHonored to be on…

Aug 03

The Best of Intentions and Why That Isn’t Good Enough

By DrPaul M-Power

Intentions We have the best of them. We are not going to yell anymore. We are not going to snip back at our co-worker. We are going to clean the house. We are going to workout. And then… You know how it goes. Only now, we did what we said we weren’t going to do and we didn’t didn’t do what we said we were going to do. Ugh! Why does this happen? Because we haven’t trained our brain to do something different. We haven’t given our brain and our bodies the tools they need to do something different. We CAN train our brains to respond differently. We CAN train our brains to think differently. I did it and you can also. There is nothing wrong with you, you just don’t have the tools you need in your toolbox to get you to where you want to go. I have…

Jul 28

Accept Responsibility – Save Relationships

By DrPaul M-Power

I didn't mean to do it. I didn't mean to say that. That's not what I intended. Have you ever said one of these? Most likely you have. I have. I am not here to beat you up. We all make mistakes, and we all need to be free with our forgiveness. Yet, if you find yourself being caught up in saying these sentences too often, it might be an indicator that we need to do some thinking and self-examination. "We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel." Marshall B. Rosenberg Part of maturing is becoming in tune to our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and how they affect other people. The danger comes in when we are not conscious of our responsibility, and it hurts other people. Our goal at Live On Purpose is to help enrich and save key relationships.…

Jul 21

The Benefits of Coaching

By DrPaul M-Power

When we think of coaching we immediately think of sports. Every team has a coach. It is the responsibility of the coach to get the team working together and be successful. You might be surprised that athletes often have their own private coach(es). And coaches are not limited to sports. There are vocal coaches for amateur and professional singers. Business people have coaches, even Steve Jobs and Bill Gates have used coaches. They all have coaches to help them get to a higher level in their game. Coaches aren't just for the professionals. A coach can help you: Have more confidence.Make you more aware.Figure out your desires and purpose.Develop the skills and abilities you need to make positive changes.Challenge your beliefs. This can lead to new perspective and insights that you never recognized before but were right there in front of you. Have AHA moments that lead to self-discovery, Support you as…