I want to put a warning out there to all of my friends. The warning has to do with a deception that is creating a lot of havoc in the lives of unsuspecting people everywhere. This deception is the most prevalent and potentially dangerous of any I know, and a major part of your energy should be dedicated to identifying and combating it – for if you are deceived by it, your life will predictably become miserable as a result. The deception of which I speak is the belief that you have no choice. This is the most damaging part of a victim paradigm. What happens to you or around you in your life is not nearly as important as what happens within you. You can’t always control what is happening, but you will always retain what Viktor Frankl called “the last of human freedoms” – to choose your attitude…
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There are times when my kids have some kind of a choice to make among a variety of options, and faced with the difficulty of deciding they may ask, “Dad, which kind should I get?” My response is predictable as I say, “Whatever kind you want.” It seems so obvious to me that it is just a matter of choice and preference. Well, recently my wife called her dad, who was unavailable to answer the phone. She got the routine message of, “I’m not available… please leave a message…” etc., but then the ending took her by surprise. Just before the beep Vicki heard, “Have whatever kind of day you want!” It is, after all, just a matter of choice and preference. We’ve been getting a lot of mileage out of this one as we encourage each other now to do just that. I’m trying to give up the selfishness…
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I’ve been thinking a lot about our key relationships as I prepare for our couples retreat this weekend. Obviously we are emphasizing the relationship with a spouse for this event, but there are five key relationships in our life – they are: Your Relationship With Your Creator Your Relationship With Yourself Your Relationship With Your Family Spouse Children Extended Family Your Relationship With Other People Your Relationship With Things I have found that the happiest people I know have these relationships prioritized and in this order. Getting them out of order tends to throw things out of whack. Get them lined up and start realizing the happiness you were meant to enjoy.
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The weather has been changing a lot here along the Wasatch Front in Utah, with Spring making a definite appearance. I read a post today by Mark Sanborn who made some comparisons between the weather and our moods. He writes, “The wild and varied weather swings of Colorado remind me much of what business and life are like. One day we’re figuratively lying on the beach and the next we’re freezing in a hail storm. Which is your “normal” weather? Over time it is easy to become discouraged and let snow and ice become our normal emotional weather. We still get sunny and warm some occasionally but look at those days as the exception rather than the norm.” Unlike the weather, we have a little “Climate Control” we can do with our lives. Keep a close eye on those prevailing patterns, and see what you can do about a little sunshine…
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loans at home for youThis week’s message is coming a day late because I spent yesterday in my Strategic Coach meetings in Santa Monica California. While I was there I realized that sometimes I am hesitant to admit or reveal my weaknesses to others. This is a common factor for most people, probably because we see it as a sign of weakness or something. The realization I had is that if I refuse to share my weakness, I prevent others from sharing their strength. This is the whole reason why we all have different strengths and weaknesses. Because of this we can exchange with each other and improve each other’s lives. Serve others through your strengths, and give them opportunities to serve through your weaknesses.
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I’ve been reminded this week that the solutions in life often come little by little, not in big chunks. I sometimes set myself up for discouragement if I’m looking for the big chunk solution. In fact, it is easy to completely miss the little inspirations that progressively lead us toward our goal. I believe that most (certainly not all) inspiration comes in the small and simple things. I like the way Bob Proctor defines success – “The Progressive Realization of a Worthy Ideal”. Remember that word “progressive” means it doesn’t show up all at once. If you will humble yourself enough to open your eyes and see the small and simple inspirations in your life, I can almost guarantee you that something will come along today to help you solve your problem. fast rs money Notice and be grateful! (Please notice also what I’ve attached about Friday’s speed reading event and…
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My 10-year-old daughter shared with me a quick little inspirational book this week called The Fred Factor, by Mark Sanborn. This book was inspired by the author’s mailman who went out of his way to do his job with enthusiasm, turning the ordinary into the extraordinary for himself and all of those around him. Sanborn suggests that we can convert the job we have into one we love, not by doing a different job, but by doing the one we have differently. Many of my clients have shared with me that their goal is to make a difference in this world. This book points out that we ALL make a difference in this world every day! The key question is, what KIND of difference am I making? You WILL affect people today, maybe slightly, maybe significantly. Notice how you are making a difference in the lives of others today. Start…
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texasenergyabc.com/site_move/I’ve had several opportunities to talk to people this week about balancing all of the many demands on their time and resources. It seems that there are dozens of things every day that pull our attention, and we are in the awkward position of trying to juggle it all. Fortunately, we all have an internal guidance system that will help us to determine whether we are choosing wisely. I like the way Hyrum Smith put it in his book, The 10 Natural Laws of Successful Time and Life Management. Law #3 states, “When your daily activities reflect your governing values, you experience inner peace.” The times we feel off-balance are the times when we find ourselves sacrificing things of greater value. Ask yourself how well your typical daily activities reflect what you really believe and value in life. Live on purpose!
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Greetings Friends! I’ve noticed a tendency for people to notice their weaknesses, be troubled by them, and focus on them sometimes without giving much credit to their strengths. But it is your strengths that give you the most power in accomplishing your dreams. I like the way John C. Maxwell put it in his book, Talent Is Never Enough. He said, “Focusing on weaknesses instead of strengths is like having a handful of coins – a few made of pure gold and the rest of tarnished copper – and setting aside the gold coins to spend all your time cleaning and shining the copper ones in the hopes of making them look more valuable. No matter how long you spend on them, they will never be worth what the gold ones are. Go with your greatest assets; don’t waste your time.” Bring out your gold!
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Dr. Susan Jeffers asserts in her book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway, that at the root of every fear is a common belief – the belief that you can’t handle it. Once you get past this belief, fear disappears as you realize that you can handle absolutely anything and everything that life brings. I also like this quote from Les Brown: “When someone tells me that they tried to reach a goal but couldn't, I always ask, ‘What was it that you weren't willing to handle? Are you willing to burn the midnight oil, scrub floors, wash cars, work weekends, take on a second job, get there early and stay late, go back to school?’" Give up this attitude that you can’t, and start asking how you can./www.mostwatertraining.com/mac_mac/http://redmasculinidades.com/unsecured-online-loan What will it take? – it isn’t over until you win.
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