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Vicki, I’m not sure if I’m really a qualified perfectionist. Maybe I used to. Vicki: Probably a lot more. Paul: I think there were times when I was really kind of uptight about things, like they need to be a certain way, and I’ve since abandoned that for something that’s much more joyful for me. […]

Before I tell you how to have a good divorce, I have to tell you how to have a terrible, nasty, caustic divorce. This works really well. Step 1, blame someone for your misery. And you know who to blame too, don’t you? Yeah, you do. It’s not too hard to find that person to

The 5 factors that determine the outcome of divorce for children come from working as a child custody evaluator for the courts for almost 13 years. Honestly, it’s yuck work, not fun. When bitter, angry, divorcing people can’t figure out how to share their kids, it gets messy but I learned a lot of things

Honestly, I don’t know if you can control your thoughts. Let’s do a little test. Let’s just try this out. Think about bananas. Think about the color, texture, and taste of bananas. Imagine what they look like, what they feel like. You got it? Okay, step 2. Do not think about grapefruit. You know the

I have 6 holiday stress tips to help you this holiday season. I could probably get away with just one if it’s this: Can the shoulds. Can them. Get rid of them. We too often put expectations on ourselves that overwhelm us. We feel frustrated because we are not where we should be. We are

I talk a lot in my positive psychology practice about things you should do, or try to do, or say to your kids. Today, while giving you 10 things to never say to your child, I am not trying to be negative, but help you to understand that what we say matters. I found an

There are four things that you must do to win a custody battle, but they are probably not what you would expect. As a professional psychologist, 13 years of my career was committed to doing child custody evaluations for the court before I switched over to positive psychology. Here is what I learned. As a

Even with our best efforts, sometimes we do it. We lose our cool and yell at our kids. How do you apologize to your child for yelling? We can learn something from our kids. You know when your kids are kind of conflicted with each other and they end up hurting each other they end

I get asked this question so I’ve put together some tips for you today about how to motivate lazy young adults. I am going to assume you are a parent or an employer trying to motivate a young adult on your team. What can you do? Step number 1, lose the lazy. I mean the

Hi! Dr. Paul here again. I’ve got some tips for you today about how to motivate lazy young adults. I am going to assume you are a parent or an employer trying to motivate a young adult on your team. What can you do? Step number 1, lose the lazy. I mean the label of