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Nov 06

Do What You Love for Those That Love What You Do

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Do what you love for those who love what you do. I honestly believe that this is the sweet spot for entrepreneurs or other producer minded people. Let’s breakdown the phrase into two elements because it gets thrown around sometimes and discounted even though there is a lot of value there. First is doing what you love just because you love it enough of a reason to make that your life’s work? Dan Sullivan talks about this in his program, The Strategic Coach. He said when you really hit your sweet spot, you meet four criteria: *Number one, you have passion for what you're doing. You love it. *Number two, you have exceptional skill in that area. So, your sweet spot has to include both. The passion and the skill. *Number three, it adds energy to your life. And this quite frankly is one of the reasons why psychologically it…

Nov 04

How To Discipline Your Child With Love

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

A common and really important question. How to discipline your child with love? Okay, Live On Purpose parents, quick review. What is your job? Your job as a parent is to love them no matter what and even if. Disciplining with love, you know what? I don't even think that it's truly discipline unless it's done with love. If it's something else, it's some kind of domination. Love is an essential part of the equation. Now, can I put this into context for you? Because all the research that we've done over the years in psychology leads to the same conclusion. This is the most common finding that you can find in child development literature. There are 2 things that are necessary for a child to be well-adjusted and stable in their life. Those 2 things are love and discipline. There are different words that are used in the different…

Nov 01

How Do We Make Moral Decisions?

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Let's do a definition to start this off. Moral: Concerned with the principles of right and wrong behavior and the goodness or badness of human character. Moral decision-making is basically how do we decide to do what we do based on whether it's right or wrong. And we understand what's right or wrong based on our culture, our training, our upbringing. All of these things tend to shape our moral decision-making. But there's something that goes even deeper than that and maybe you'll relate with me here on this. I believe that ingrained in human beings is what I sometimes call a natural knowing. It's the ability to connect with something that is true naturally. I had an opportunity for a while to run treatment groups at a youth correctional facility. Now, this is a place where young people had been incarcerated for decisions that they had made. I noticed…

Oct 30

3 Things You Should Say to Your Children Everyday

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

We know there are things we should never say to a child, but, since I am the positivity guy, it might be nice to tell you what you should say to your children. This came from early in my career when I was introduced to Foster Klein and Jim Fay, the guys who created “Parenting With Love and Logic.” As I was listening to a presentation they were giving, they said something that has stuck with me all of these years. Tell your kids you love them. That is number 1 on our list. I love you no matter what and even if. There is nothing that you need to do in order to qualify for my love. Find some way to say that to your kids every day. They need to hear it, they need to feel it. It doesn't have to be specifically in those words, you might…

Oct 01

Stay Positive In A Negative World

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Stay Positive In A Negative World Ahhh, election season, as if there wasn’t enough negativity in the world. So how can you stay positive in the muck? In a recent episode on YouTube, I share principles and skills that can help you Stay Positive in a Negative World. Identify Principles that are related to positivity. When you understand the principle, you can change the outcome. 1. Everything has an upside and a downside. There are pros and cons, pleasure and pain. Up does not exist except in relationship to down. Opposites define each other. 2. We constantly judge, and you can’t turn it off. Judgment also implies comparison. That you think the world is negative, is a judgment. It could always be better and always be worse depending on our judgment of what is occurring. 3. We are constantly creating and we have the ability to create a mess or hope.…

Aug 10

Pathological Positivity and Power Tools

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Pathological Positivity and Power Tools Power Tools is the name of Chapter 6 in my book, Pathological Positivity. What a strange name for a chapter in a book that teaches you how to Live On Purpose. What do power tools have to do with positivity? In Chapter 6, I share a treasured experience of moving a shower drain in a 6-inch concrete floor. After chipping away for a week with a hand-held chisel and a two-pound sledge hammer, progress is sloooooow. My handyman neighbor drops by, observes, chuckles, and tells me he will be back in a minute. My neighbor returns with a hammer-drill, little brother of a jackhammer. “Here, plug this in and give er’ a whirl,” he says. There is no comparison of this tool and my little chisel. The power tool definitely made the job quicker, easier and with less perspiration, but without a power source, it would have…

Jul 29

How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed and Depressed

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

How to Choose to Be Happy With everything on our to do lists and media bombarding us at all times, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and depressed. Would you believe me if I told you there is a way to stop feeling overwhelmed and depressed and choose to be happy? On a recent YouTube episode of Live On Purpose TV, Devan Bosch shared several experiences he has had in doing just this. Devan shared that when we are feeling down, the focus is on ourselves. We are thinking about our wants, our needs, our experiences, our feelings. The arrow, or our focus, is entirely inward. If we stay in this mode for long it is easy to experience victim thoughts and allow past hurts to have centerstage. We need to turn the arrow around, get the focus off ourselves and start thinking about others, what they might be experiencing…

Jul 26

How To Get Your Kids To Listen Without Yelling

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Do You Have to Yell to Get Your Kids to Listen? I had a client ask me one day, “Dr. Paul, why do my kids wait until the twelfth time I’ve asked them and I’m upset and angry before they’ll do something?” The answer was the kids have trained dad to yell before they respond AND dad has trained the kids to ignore him until the twelfth time he asks and resorts to yelling. Notice, it goes both directions. This is important as we manage the dynamic of how to encourage our kids to listen to us without yelling. From a behavioral psychology standpoint, yelling is a trap because it is not a punishment, it is a reinforcer. Understand the difference between a reinforcer and a punishment. A punishment decreases a behavior, a reinforcer increases the behavior. Yelling is a reinforcer, not a punishment. Kids ALWAYS have choices. They choose to…

Jul 09

Can Creativity Be Forced?

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Set Yourself Up for Creativity We all know someone we consider to be creative. You may even consider yourself to be creative. What about the rest of us? The ones who don’t think they have a creative bone in their bodies? There are ways you can generate ideas that lead to creativity. In the YouTube video, “How To Generate Ideas,” five ways are given for you create an atmosphere where ideas flourish and creativity flows. 1. Set aside time to brainstorm. The fact is, we are all busy, but we need to unplug and allow ourselves time to ponder something without being pulled into our phones, a text, social media or family responsibilities. Figure out a time when you can get away to just think. 2. Create a setting that is conducive to the creative part of your brain. Get out of your normal space where you use the executive…

Jul 03

Decide To Get a Fresh Start in Life

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Would You Rather? You Decide! Have you ever played the game, “Would You Rather?” It is a great way to find out how another person feels about something, really anything. All you do is present two options and ask, “Would You Rather?” The questions can be simple from, “Would you rather attend a world-renowned symphony or a major league baseball game between the two worst teams in the league?” Or, more thought provoking, “Would you rather have three happy years left in your life or 50 unhappy years?” With some questions, the choice is clear and sometimes it isn’t, but you have a choice. When we are feeling stuck in our daily lives, we need to remember this simple truth, we have a choice and we can choose to give ourselves a fresh start in life. In a recent YouTube episode, I share five ways that will lead you to a…