Dr Paul Jenkins

Feb 04

How To Deal With A Rude Disrespectful Child

By DrPaul M-Power

Vicki: What a challenge, dealing with a rude disrespectful child That is so hard. It sets things off inside you really fast. Paul: That’s something that triggers parents more than anything. Vicki: Yeah, yep. So, the very first thing maintaining respect yourself. This is a challenge when someone is being disrespectful to you, especially someone younger, it is really challenging. We have got to find ways that we can maintain respect ourselves. We have talked about that quite a few times. Become very aware of the way you show up in your own body. So, with your face, is it calm? Are you reflecting back anger? Are your eyebrows calm? Is your voice calm? Paul: You know Vicki, as you introduced this idea of maintaining a respectful demeanor yourself, because that is how you are going to model behavior for your kids, obviously. I remember this group that I was…

Jan 30

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Rebuilding A Relationship After A Separation

By DrPaul M-Power

Why are we even having this conversation? Because it’s challenging, it’s difficult. If you’re in a relationship with someone and then a separation occurs, usually that separation is a result of a number of different factors. And you know what they are, right? Oftentimes, it’s because there were some difficulties, there were some challenges. Some things came up where at least one party said, “We’ve got to get some space or some distance here.” The nature of a separation itself is problematic because it starts out with usually a problem or a concern. What if this is someone that you want to still have a relationship with despite the problems? I work with a lot of couples for example where they have children together. They run into some marital problems and so they separate to try to work on these problems. They have a reason to get back together because…

Jan 30

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How To Deal With The Loss Of A Pet

By DrPaul M-Power

It’s one of the most gut-wrenching things I’ve had to deal with in recent years. How to deal with the loss of a pet. I’m going to approach this topic from two perspectives because you might be considering how you or someone you love is going to deal with the loss of a pet. From a parenting perspective, there are lots of great reasons to have a pet in the first place. Some of those would include that they tend to give us examples of unconditional love and forgiveness. I heard a joke recently about how to tell who truly loves you? You put your spouse and your dog in the trunk of your car, drive around for about an hour, open up the trunk and see who’s happy to see you. You know how you can leave for five minutes and come back and your dog is like,…

Jan 28

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Self-Calming Techniques For Preschoolers

By DrPaul M-Power

Some of our viewers have asked for some self-calming techniques for their preschoolers. I think we can help you with that. Vicki: Young children really don’t have emotional self-regulation. It is pretty common for them to be out of control, and so, learning self-soothing techniques is going to take some time. Just expect that and it won’t be so frustrating to you when they just start throwing a big fit or having a meltdown. Paul: Vicki, we have been doing positive parenting groups for some time now. And as you have joined our groups and shared with us what’s going on in your own parenting world, I’ve seen this very frequently where parents of very young children, especially if they are first-time parents just aren’t aware of what some of the developmental expectations are. I would encourage you to not freak out too much. When you have a preschool child…

Jan 27

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What You Should Know Before Writing A Book

By DrPaul M-Power

I’ve now written three books with a few more coming, and I think I know a few things that could save you some time. These three books have taught me a lot about what you need to know in order to write a book or before you write it. The first thing to ask is, “Who is this for? Who is my audience?” That’s important because the tone of this book will be dictated by who you think is going to be reading it. The obvious example: If you are writing a children’s book, you are going to approach that very differently than if you are going to write a textbook for medical students. Those are pretty diverse audiences. Get clear on who is your audience and that will help you to shape not only your message but the way you deliver the content. I asked who’s your audience who’s…

Jan 25

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How To Stop Worrying About Money

By DrPaul Uncategorized

Money is one of the most common things that people worry about. How do you stop worrying about money? I’ve got 3 easy steps for you today, and the last one is the most powerful. Step one is understanding worry. We are going to stop worrying about money. Let’s understand worry first. What is it? I’m a psychologist, I deal with this all the time. Worry is the negative prediction of what is to be. Think about that for a minute. We all constantly imagining what is coming. It doesn’t exist because we haven’t created it yet. Think about that. How you doing next week? You don’t know. You have something to do with it. Please remember that, but you don’t know. So, the only place that exists right now is in your imagination. Can you imagine things getting worse for you? Just play along with me for a moment….

Jan 23

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How To Help A Child With Reactive Attachment Disorder

By DrPaul M-Power

A viewer of Live On Purpose TV asked, “How do I help a child with reactive attachment disorder?” I’ve got at least seven ideas to share with you about that. Reactive attachment disorder is something that you may or may not know about already. Most parents who are familiar with reactive attachment disorder have adopted children. This is because reactive attachment disorder is most common in children who are adopted, who have an early history of neglect or failure to attach to a primary caregiver. There has been some kind of other childhood trauma, abuse, or neglect. This causes some very problematic things to happen in that child’s development. It is so important for children to form a healthy attachment, especially to their primary caregiver. But, also to others who are important in their life. When that is missing in the earliest stages of development, children sometimes don’t learn to…

Jan 21

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How To Deal With Girl Bullies In Middle School

By DrPaul M-Power

Bullying in general is something that we’ve got to address a little bit better in our communities. It’s becoming more of a problem all over the planet. The specific topic of today’s video has to do with adolescents which bullying tends to increase as we get into those adolescent years, and girls particularly in middle school. When we were shooting the video for this topic at Live On Purpose TV, both Allie and Alisha who were filming said, “Oh, yeah, girls can be awful. Mean Girls.” There is even a movie with that name. Girls can be even worse than boys when it comes to bullying. It can be a big problem. There are different forms of bullying. Think of a spectrum or a continuum, maybe on the less severe end of that spectrum we’ve got teasing, banter. Especially friendly or playful banter. As you move toward the other end…

Jan 15

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How To Defend Yourself Against Gaslighting

By DrPaul M-Power

One of our viewers recently asked, “Dr. Paul, how do you defend yourself against gaslighting?” I didn’t even know what that was to start with. I’ll define it for you and give you some clear steps so that you don’t get stuck. The term gas lighting comes from a movie that was created back in the 40’s where a man was manipulating this woman in some very subtle psychological ways. Every time that he did certain things, he would adjust the intensity of the gaslights. So that’s where the term comes from. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the perpetrator of the manipulation is trying to get the other person to feel like they are crazy or to doubt their own sanity or judgment or perceptions. Sounds fun, right? It’s not fun. When you are on the receiving end of the gaslighting, you start to wonder if you…

Jan 14

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Best Books for Entrepreneurs

By DrPaul M-Power

In much of my coaching, I get to work with entrepreneurs. People like you who want to make a difference. Today, I’ll cover my tips for the top 10 books for entrepreneurs. You might know I have written a book, Pathological Positivity. I’m not going to put it on the list because it was too hard to narrow it down anyway. Honestly, it starts with your mindset and my book deals with that. If you want to read it, I will help you to get it by giving it to you for free, if you will just pay the shipping. Go to drpauljenkins.com. This book tells you more about my journey and how I learned about everything that I share here on the channel. I want to share that with you, so, I will throw that out first. This, I think is the starting place for changing your mindset about…

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