Do you know what a disrupter is? In business a disrupter is a new product that enters the market and at the outset appears to not perform very well, but over time, it disrupts the giants of the industry and in some cases, causes massive, long-term changes. I bet you can come up with a few. The telephone, lightbulbs, cars, refrigeration. Those have been around for a while, but how about Netflix or Airbnb? I am not a business expert, but I was thinking about how we can use disrupters to cause change to help us with our personal development. It is easy to get stuck in a rut. To do things because we are on automatic. We don’t even question why it is we react the way we do, we are just programmed to respond. If we introduce a small change, it could lead to better results in the…
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How did you like the interview I did with David Horsager on his book, Trusted Leader? Link to the last post to see what I am talking about. As I was going through the YouTube Comments, one came up that I thought was insightful and relevant to the interview. It was in regards to this video, Communicating Effectively With Your Teenager / 5 rules. The comment was that these rules will help you communicate effectively with anyone. This viewer was so right. I seek to find principles. The principles I was highlighting are about communication. I applied them in the video to teenagers, but they can be applied to anyone. They also dovetailed nicely with the interview I did with David about leadership. The principles are about building trust in the relationship so we can communicate effectively. E F F E C T I V E L Y. We don’t…
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Have you ever heard me say that we can always imagine something better than what we have and we can imagine something worse. I use this model as I teach about discontent and how to use it to our advantage, not to compare ourselves with others. It is not helpful when someone is trying to share their pain. “My children are driving me crazy with their arguing.” “Well, you know April is taking her daughter to the doctor to find out why she isn’t talking yet.” “My husband is not doing anything about his mother’s interference.” “At least you have a husband.” “My boss totally raked me over the coals today at our staff meeting.” “At least you have a job that makes good money, not like some of us.” The fact is your journey through life will look completely different from someone else’s journey. You do not share the…
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What is the biggest barrier to happiness, success, prosperity? Fear and worry. Fear gets in our way more than anything else I know. When we feel fear, we have a natural avoidance response. It is built in - automatic. Avoidance brings with it short term relief, but in the long run makes the fear worse. After we have avoided the fear, it is still there and it won't be ignored for long. Dr. Susan Jeffers is the author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Her title captures the alternative - to experience the fear and face it head on. This is perhaps one of the hardest things to do in the short run, but long term it has lasting benefits. Dr. Paul Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom. ~Marilyn Ferguson
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While hearing Just Get Over It may not be in itself helpful, what it may be telling you might be just what you need to hear.
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I don’t know if you have ever written something and looked back at it later and thought, “What was I thinking?” or “Wow, that is still relevant today.” I did this recently with this excerpt from my book, Pathological Positivity. Remember, I wrote this in 2014 and we know the world has changed a bit in the last seven years. “What we interpret, reinterpret, create or recreate on purpose with Pathological Positivity becomes what is - and thereby becomes real. We feel successful as soon as we appreciate what is as good, and see what is to be as even better. Like a child excited to open birthday presents, the pathologically positive relish and enjoy the anticipation of great things to come - no matter how things seem here and now.” Is this true in a pandemic? One that has been going on for over a year and still affects…
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Both are an absolute. Which do you choose to believe? Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift, or in this case, punctuation, for what was closed to open. Notice that I’m Possible doesn’t mean that you have arrived at your destination. It merely opens up the destination as something that can happen. Possible means you have the potential to do something. Possible means I am ready to take the next steps to achieve something more. Possible means I have faith in me. You see where this could take you in your personal development pretty easily. I’m Possible means we invest in ourselves in whatever place we need to work on. More education, learning a new people skill to enhance our business performance. It could also mean I can parent better, I can be there for my family more. The possibilities are endless and so are you. What will be…
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