I had something else on my mind for this week and then another senseless school shooting happened. Someone decided to walk into a place that was safe and loving and killed 21 people, leaving countless others shattered in the aftermath. It makes my heart heavy. There just aren’t words. A family member knew someone whose daughter was killed in a school shooting and one thing we learned is when there are no words to convey our sadness, our compassion, or our love, we can do something. It could be sitting with them, holding their hand, giving a hug, taking in a meal, mowing a lawn, walking a dog, or taking another care off their minds until they are able to heal a bit. For those of us who do not live close and do not personally know those affected by the tragedy, we can choose today to be kind and
Following the devastating events at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown Connecticut, a number of friends, clients, even strangers, approach me wondering how to deal with this tragedy. The conversations focus initially on the Sandy Hook tragedy itself, then generally expand to address the question of how to deal with tragedy and trauma in general. My initial observation – and suggestion – is that until we know individually what to do, we simply pay attention not just to the tragedy, but the amazing way humans intuitively respond to such difficult things – and take heart from what we observe. Yes, it was a dark day in Newtown, as it was in Columbine, as it was on 9-11. Yet within those days of darkness we also see something else. Light. Light following immediately on the heels of the darkness. Light rushing in from all over the world to dispel the overwhelming darkness.