First impressions are really important in a lot of different contexts in our life. You think about things like a job interview for example. Or social interactions or workplace interactions with co-workers or a customer or client. Those first impressions are really crucial. Dr. Ann Demarais did some research years ago that illuminated the important aspects in forming a great first impression. She wrote the book "First Impressions," which I highly recommend. We'll put a link down below. Dr. Demarais found that how we focus makes a big difference. So, let's take a look at how Dr. Demarais has set this up. Imagine a quadrant system and we will pick 2 elements to focus on so you can see exactly how this works. In the first column, our focus is how I feel in first person. So, I'm focused on how I feel as opposed to how you feel. Now,…
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We've all wondered it from time to time how do you get someone to like you. You know what? I learned this from some little kids. I've shared with you before that I spent (Wow) probably 12 or 13 years of my career doing child custody evaluations. I did a lot of psychological evaluations and interviews with children, little kids. And they taught me so much. I used to have this instrument that I would use with children called a sentence completion test. And it's not really a test. It's more of an exercise to pry out some of their thinking. There are sentence stems and then there's a blank at the end. And you read the stem to them and they fill in the blank. And one of these was "To make friends, you have to..." Now, how did you answer that? You know what? Over 90% of the…
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I’m co-hosting an event this coming Saturday in Salt Lake City that I would like to personally invite you to attend – visit www.thrivesummit.com to see what I’m so excited about and register. Now for the main message…www.rennamobile.com/custom/timer/ The way people feel about you is most closely associated with the way they feel about themselves when they are with you. Dr. Ann Demarais explains in her book, First Impressions that we can have a powerful impact on others through giving them any of four powerful social gifts: 1. Appreciation – showing and expressing gratitude for whatever that person brings to our life. 2. Connection – finding ways that you connect or intersect with that other person in your interests or experience. 3. Elevation – everyone likes to feel good; your cheerfulness, smile, or positivity will be well received by others. 4. Enlightenment – find a way to share new…
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