Once a drama queen, always a drama queen?

That crown can get a bit heavy and difficult to maintain as you burn through friendships and jobs.

These hints should help you to lose the crown without losing your head!

  1. If you find drama whirling around you like a tornado, own it. 

Drama doesn’t happen without you buying into it.

Figure out where the need for attention comes from. (Hint, a dispassionate third party might be needed to help you here).

2. Creating drama is often a way to seek control or to prove yourself right.

That person ALWAYS fights with me. So, you pick a fight, or you spread some inflammatory gossip in a way you know will get back to that person and they will attack. 

See! They fight with me. (Ahem, who really started the fight?)

3. Drama occurs when people tell lies or mislead others to think something that is not true.

Stick to the facts, don't elaborate on what other’s motives are or exaggerate your feelings.

4. Practice self-care.

It is easier to make good decisions when we are at our best physically and emotionally. You know that means get enough sleep, avoid excessive alcohol or other stimulants. It means getting exercise and choosing a well-balanced diet. 

It means getting help when we need it. 

5. Lastly, replace the drama with something else.

It might be new friends, a little more grounded.

It might be developing a new hobby or volunteering.

This could be a rich time of self-exploration and self-discovery.

6. Schedule your breakthrough call today to save your (fill in the blank, friendship, job, marriage, or neck).

End the drama.

Dr. Paul

  1. Own the drama
  2. Don’t gossip
  3. Tell the truth (half-truths don’t count!)
  4. Practice self-care
  5. Replace the drama with something productive
  6. Get professional help