Someone I knew years ago, said people are right where they want to be. She was saying that if someone really didn’t want to be married to their spouse, or if they really didn’t like their job, well, they could quit, find another spouse or another job. If they didn’t do these things, then they were just where they wanted to be. Have you found yourself in a situation not to your liking? Do you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else? When we stay there, this becomes a form of noxious negativity, the antithesis of creation.

So why do people choose to stay in noxious negativity? Comfort? Lack of courage? Some actually step into victim mode. They complain and say they have no choice. Anyone can break out of this mode with one simple (but possibly scary) question. It is, “If not this, then what?” Once you ask yourself this question and answer honestly, you are moving from noxious negativity into Pathological Positivity.

Three simple words, when applied, honestly, to your challenge can create change, and you can build on your answer to, “If not this, then what?” The three words are seeing, feeling, and believing.

Michelangelo said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” Imagine. Really see yourself in the place you want to be.

Shift from “if” to “when” by feeling what it would be like to enjoy the end product. Think and speak in present tense about the goal. Use positive language about the change and see those around you enjoying the consequences of your shift.

Believe that you can create a better you. Really believing in yourself is believing that when you hit roadblocks, they are just that, a blockage that you have to find a way to get around, over, or under. Believing is knowing that, you CAN create something better than you have now.  

Hear Larry Bilotta explain principles to change a toxic marriage into mutual happiness at Live On Purpose Radio.

“I am asking with confidence, knowing that rejection is a myth and only exists in my mind.”

~Jack Canfield