Up for the challenge? Of course, we are going to pick love. We are decent people. Now think of a difficult person you have to deal with in your life? Maybe it is a boss, co-worker, neighbor, or teenager. Do you always pick love? Ugh!
In my book, The Love Choice, three steps are given to Choose Hate and three steps to Choose Love so you can see what happens when we make the choice. We should always choose love, not only when dealing with pleasant people, but when we deal with difficult people – always.
Your reaction to the difficult person has something to do with your love or hate choice due to something in psychology that you might have heard of, the Confirmation Bias. This is the tendency our minds have to look for, discover and create evidence that we are right. This means we have something to do with how we set ourselves up to react when dealing with difficult people.
Instead of saying how much this difficult person annoys you, take the position that he or she entertains you. Your brain will serve up evidence to validate your thought. You can actually use your brain to make life easier.
Learn how to take control of your emotions by making a conscious choice. Take my Psychological Challenge after viewing this YouTube episode of How to Deal With a Boss You Hate.
“Love me or hate me, both are in my favor…If you love me, I’ll always be in your heart…If you hate me, I’ll always be in your mind.” – William Shakespeare