How To Talk So Your Teen Will Listen

By M-Power

Paul: Vicki, maybe we ought to change this title to “How to listen so teens will listen?” Vicki: That is so important. So many kids just feel like, they are not heard. They are not validated. So, listening to them, even when it seems silly to you, especially then. Paul: You make a good point, Vicki, because I think teens get frustrated sometimes feeling like we don’t take the time to actually connect with them. And so, we don’t have the credibility that we need when we want them to listen to us because they feel like we have never really listened to them. This puts you in a powerful position as a parent. Vicki: Remember, everything they are going through is big to them. So, if you want them to listen to you, be sure you are listening to them in all the little things. Little to you, big…

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How To Forgive Yourself For Hurting Someone

By M-Power

As a professional psychologist, I work with people all the time on how to forgive others. Today, is a twist on that, how to forgive yourself for hurting someone. I think the first thing that you want to do, get good at forgiveness. In general, I mean. This is a tricky subject especially if we don’t fully understand what it is. Forgiveness is not saying that what happened was okay. You know, we kind of learned that as kids, right? “Oh, it’s okay.” No, it’s not. It’s not okay to hurt people. So, don’t say that it is. This makes it easier to forgive actually because you aren’t lying. Forgiveness is not letting someone off the hook for their misdeeds. It’s not eliminating the consequences of those misdeeds. Forgiveness is not allowing someone to continue hurting you. So, as I throw out a few of these things that forgiveness is…

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