Pathological Positivity

Jan 27

What You Should Know Before Writing A Book

By DrPaul M-Power

I’ve now written three books with a few more coming, and I think I know a few things that could save you some time. These three books have taught me a lot about what you need to know in order to write a book or before you write it. The first thing to ask is, “Who is this for? Who is my audience?” That’s important because the tone of this book will be dictated by who you think is going to be reading it. The obvious example: If you are writing a children’s book, you are going to approach that very differently than if you are going to write a textbook for medical students. Those are pretty diverse audiences. Get clear on who is your audience and that will help you to shape not only your message but the way you deliver the content. I asked who’s your audience who’s…

Jan 25

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How To Stop Worrying About Money

By DrPaul Uncategorized

Money is one of the most common things that people worry about. How do you stop worrying about money? I’ve got 3 easy steps for you today, and the last one is the most powerful. Step one is understanding worry. We are going to stop worrying about money. Let’s understand worry first. What is it? I’m a psychologist, I deal with this all the time. Worry is the negative prediction of what is to be. Think about that for a minute. We all constantly imagining what is coming. It doesn’t exist because we haven’t created it yet. Think about that. How you doing next week? You don’t know. You have something to do with it. Please remember that, but you don’t know. So, the only place that exists right now is in your imagination. Can you imagine things getting worse for you? Just play along with me for a moment….

Jan 22

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Understanding And Fixing Low Self-Esteem

By DrPaul M-Power

Let’s take on the understanding of low self-esteem first. One of my college professors was a leading researcher in this field. Dr. Richard Bednar and his colleagues did a landmark study back in the 80’s that was published by the American Psychological Association that shook up what we knew about self-esteem. We used to think that it was based on achievement or having people treat us in a way that built us up. That’s not what they found. These researchers found that self-esteem is based primarily on one factor, seeing yourself taking on hard things. Think about that for a minute. It’s not even whether you succeed in taking on those hard things. It’s simply seeing yourself take on hard things. Conversely, low self-esteem was correlated with seeing yourself running away from hard things, or an avoidant pattern. That takes a toll on self-esteem. There are a lot of paradoxes…

Jan 14

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Best Books for Entrepreneurs

By DrPaul M-Power

In much of my coaching, I get to work with entrepreneurs. People like you who want to make a difference. Today, I’ll cover my tips for the top 10 books for entrepreneurs. You might know I have written a book, Pathological Positivity. I’m not going to put it on the list because it was too hard to narrow it down anyway. Honestly, it starts with your mindset and my book deals with that. If you want to read it, I will help you to get it by giving it to you for free, if you will just pay the shipping. Go to drpauljenkins.com. This book tells you more about my journey and how I learned about everything that I share here on the channel. I want to share that with you, so, I will throw that out first. This, I think is the starting place for changing your mindset about…

Dec 24

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Aging or Ageless

By DrPaul M-Power

I just had a conversation with one of my clients that I really wanted to share with you. You know how we make a big deal about exercise and getting enough sleep and eating a balanced diet because we are taking care of our body? Her comment to me today was, “I feel better emotionally when I’m exercising.” It reminded me of an experience I had a couple of years ago with Ron Zeller. Ron is the author of Aging or Ageless. He is a world-class leadership expert. I got a chance to interview Ron just a few months before he passed away from cancer and this wasn’t the first time he had cancer. He had lots of experience dealing with the body and health. As I was going into his home to interview him Ron said to me, “Paulie,” and he is the only person on the planet that…

Aug 10

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Pathological Positivity and Power Tools

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Pathological Positivity and Power Tools Power Tools is the name of Chapter 6 in my book, Pathological Positivity. What a strange name for a chapter in a book that teaches you how to Live On Purpose. What do power tools have to do with positivity? In Chapter 6, I share a treasured experience of moving a shower drain in a 6-inch concrete floor. After chipping away for a week with a hand-held chisel and a two-pound sledge hammer, progress is sloooooow. My handyman neighbor drops by, observes, chuckles, and tells me he will be back in a minute. My neighbor returns with a hammer-drill, little brother of a jackhammer. “Here, plug this in and give er’ a whirl,” he says. There is no comparison of this tool and my little chisel. The power tool definitely made the job quicker, easier and with less perspiration, but without a power source, it would have…

May 14

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Acquire Tools – Acquire Happiness

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

What is your favorite tool? Recently a friend suggested a garden tool that has cut weeding time in the garden by half! Hello, new best friend. Where have you been all my life? We have all heard the saying, “Work smarter, not harder.” Tools allow us to do this and they are helpful for all kinds of tasks inside the house and out. There are also tools that help us to become Pathologically Positive and when we choose to use these tools, we choose happiness. Scott Wilhite, author of, “The 7 Core Skills of Everyday Happiness,” joined me for a recent episode on YouTube and shared three skills he practices every day that bring him happiness. The first skill is the skill of gratitude. If we feel we owe someone for what they have done for us, that isn’t gratitude. Gratitude is being thankful for the small and big things that give meaning to…

Apr 24

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Change Your Language, Change Your Life

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Word choice, tone, inflection. All can tell others where you are from. They can also tell others where you are coming from. Language can make it clear to others and ourselves, (if we are listening), whether our life perspective is one of noxious negativity or one of Pathological Positivity. Paying attention to how we speak helps us respond to life’s surprises in a healthier and more productive way. Tiffany Peterson, my friend and colleague, reminded me recently in a YouTube episode that what we say is not always directed outside of ourselves, but the person we talk to the most everyday is probably yourself. After all, we are with ourselves 24/7. Self-doubt and fears will creep in, just as weeds will always grow in a garden. Tiffany gives us some hints to close the loop faster and get thinking positively. Her first hint is to, “Be Kind to Yourself.” She suggests a…

Apr 16

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If not this, then what?

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

Someone I knew years ago, said people are right where they want to be. She was saying that if someone really didn’t want to be married to their spouse, or if they really didn’t like their job, well, they could quit, find another spouse or another job. If they didn’t do these things, then they were just where they wanted to be. Have you found yourself in a situation not to your liking? Do you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else? When we stay there, this becomes a form of noxious negativity, the antithesis of creation. So why do people choose to stay in noxious negativity? Comfort? Lack of courage? Some actually step into victim mode. They complain and say they have no choice. Anyone can break out of this mode with one simple (but possibly scary) question. It is, “If not this, then what?” Once you ask yourself…

Jan 22

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Problems vs. Propportunities

By Cyndi Baker M-Power

In my book, Pathological Positivity, I share a story Richard Paul Evans wrote about a traveler who visits a poor, run down kingdom. He gives the king and his subjects a magic spyglass that when they look through the glass, they do not see the dismal state of things, they see a beautiful scene of what could be. Houses in disrepair appear to be beautiful cottages. Dried up yards appear as lush gardens. Haggard and downtrodden peasants look energetic and happy. Using the images as a blueprint, the king and his subjects work toward a better future. Their circumstances don’t change magically, but they improve as they begin to see how to create a better future. Each of us can create a better future, yet we sometimes limit ourselves by seeing problems, not opportunities. Think of your problems as “propportunities.” Sometimes, just this gentle shift of thinking, puts us in…

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