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Live On Purpose Central

May 17
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Default to Positivity

By M-Power

If your default is to negativity, you can learn to be more positive! My friend Devan Thorpe asked me on LinkedIn if our optimism setpoint is immovable or can we learn to be more positive? Unless you missed it, I am a Positive Psychologist. I answered that through research and clinical experience many aspects of positivity are trainable. It is true that there are some things programmed into our DNA. Some people default to positivity and others default to negativity.  Through repeated practice we can actually change our baseline of optimism, positivity and happiness.  It takes practice! Like any other skill. I compare it to learning a new language.  Whatever language we were programmed to use from birth, that language “feels” like it is “right” for us.  There are other options for language and it is only through making a clear choice and then a determined approach to practicing that…

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Mar 04
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Positivity is Possible in a Pandemic (or anytime)

By M-Power

I don’t know if you have ever written something and looked back at it later and thought, “What was I thinking?” or “Wow, that is still relevant today.”  I did this recently with this excerpt from my book, Pathological Positivity. Remember, I wrote this in 2014 and we know the world has changed a bit in the last seven years.  “What we interpret, reinterpret, create or recreate on purpose with Pathological Positivity becomes what is – and thereby becomes real. We feel successful as soon as we appreciate what is as good, and see what is to be as even better. Like a child excited to open birthday presents, the pathologically positive relish and enjoy the anticipation of great things to come – no matter how things seem here and now.” Is this true in a pandemic? One that has been going on for over a year and still affects…

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Aug 26
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The Myth of Time Management

By M-Power

We hear a lot about time management, but can you manage time?  No, time management is a myth. Sorry to burst your bubble. We all have the same amount of time given to us each day, 24 hours. We spend that time. Each one of us gets the same amount and we all spend it, then we get 24 hours more the next day.  We decide what activities we will do to spend that time.   I am hearing from a lot of people about the demands being placed on them right now with working from home and having children there, children who are now going back to school, or not.  I get asked, “How am I going to help my children and get my job done?” We have to effectively use our time and this will help you to fortify yourself, to strengthen and invigorate yourself to get what you need to do done.  We…

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Aug 11
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Today is National Daughter and Son Day

By M-Power

OK, I wasn’t sure about this. Really? We have joked at our house about everyday being kid day. Then I read this, “The purpose of this holiday is for parents to celebrate all their children and to show them love and appreciation. On this day, parents all over the United States take time out of their busy schedules to show their children just how much they mean to them.” Wait, this holiday is right up my alley in so many ways. First, we are choosing Love. Something my book, “The Love Choice,” focuses on. Second, when we model love and appreciation to our kids, it is teaching them how to love and appreciate those in their lives who make a difference. Third, it is about slowing down and intentionally thinking about one of the most important relationships in our lives, our children. Without getting too sappy, they are our future…

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Jul 31
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The Risks of Comparing Children

By M-Power

You probably think I will tell you to stop comparing your children, but I won’t. I’m not sure you can. I think our psychology is designed in such a way that we constantly compare. You compare yourself all the time, sometimes kind of unfairly. You are going to compare your kids to something whether it’s an imagined standard, whether it’s to their siblings and the other kids in the family or whether it’s to what you think most kids are like. Notice that you’re doing it. When you compare your kids to other kids it changes you, specifically your mood because there are processes going on in our mind all the time.You can’t turn them off. We are judging or evaluating ourselves, our kids, our circumstances, everything in our life. When I see this happen to families I am coaching often I will call it to their attention. I’ll do…

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