People come to me and say, Dr. Paul, I want to be a better person, a better mom. I want to develop better relationships or people skills. I want to be happier or more positive. And I ask them, so that…? The things they want to accomplish are all good, they are admirable, but the “so that” behind each of these is very important. It tells me what is driving them. If someone comes to me and says I want to be more successful in my job and I ask, “So that…,” they could answer: So that I can make more money. So that I can support my family. So that I can have honors and recognition. So that I can make a difference in people’s lives. None of these are bad, and they are also not mutually exclusive. We can make a difference in lives, earn a living and…