The Risks of Comparing Children

By M-Power

You probably think I will tell you to stop comparing your children, but I won’t. I’m not sure you can. I think our psychology is designed in such a way that we constantly compare. You compare yourself all the time, sometimes kind of unfairly. You are going to compare your kids to something whether it’s an imagined standard, whether it’s to their siblings and the other kids in the family or whether it’s to what you think most kids are like. Notice that you’re doing it. When you compare your kids to other kids it changes you, specifically your mood because there are processes going on in our mind all the time.You can’t turn them off. We are judging or evaluating ourselves, our kids, our circumstances, everything in our life. When I see this happen to families I am coaching often I will call it to their attention. I’ll do…

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